Unexpected 2nd pregnancy

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I have a just turned 2 year old and have just found out I am unexpectedly pregnant again, very early roughly around 4 weeks
Partner didn’t want a 2nd child and I was coming to terms with only having 1, having previously wanted 2. Partner said it is completely my choice however he is unsure about wanting a second for valid reasons, logistically, bigger house, more expensive etc
i guess I’m just wanting peoples experiences if they have had similar - in particular I would be worried about how my relationship could change with my first child, and how it could change with my partner too
thanks

If you want another then continue. It’s already real now and difficult to take that realness away once it isn’t there anymore.

You've mentioned your partners wants but focus on your own desires. Think through what is best for you ans not be coerced by someone else's opinions. Take your time and reflect.

In my opinion (and it is just that, an opinion you don’t need to listen to) your relationship won’t change with your first child. This is honestly such a common worry but your heart really does grow and you add to the dynamic, there is a new family member with which you form a new relationship, but that doesn’t change or diminish the love for your first child or your relationship with them in any way. Watching a bond form between your two children makes you feel like you’ve given them the best gift on earth - each other.

If you initially wanted 2 and your partner is coming round to the idea, you may regret not continuing. Having a termination won’t take you back to a time before that pregnancy existed, it will always have happened and you will have to live with the idea that you chose not to continue it.

Also, I personally didn’t find that a second child was a huge level of adjustment. This is again just my opinion. We already had all the stuff and 2 sharing a room etc is absolutely doable and normal, still fit in the car, really not that big of a change.