I had a surgical abortion at 16+2 under general anaesthesia - here’s my story for anyone else that may find themselves in his position and use Google to find similar experiences. It may be long (sorry x)
I was in an abusive, toxic relationship with a not very nice guy he would take my money, break my stuff, take my stuff and sell it, he would call me names, pull my hair, throw stuff at me basically treated me like sh!t I had no confidence I felt trapped and was trauma bonded.
Anyway in January 2026 I called the police and I had him removed from my house that was the end of it I was free of this monster. Well fast forward to mid Feb I mentioned to my friend I was really tired and just run down - I put it down to working, being a single mom etc.. and she said ‘you’re not pregnant are you!?’ I was like absolutely no chance I haven’t had sex in almost 2 months and I’m on the pill! To just shut it down I did a pregnancy test and holy fuck it was positive!!! I shit myself because I haven’t had sex in 2 months! I instantly booked a private scan for the next day and yeah I was 13+3 my heart instantly broke because I knew I couldn’t continue the pregnancy.. I didn’t want any ties to him and I new I couldn’t be a single mum again as I already have 2 children- my oldest being disabled to.
So that night I went on the BPAS website and filled in a form by the morning I had an email of them with an appointment for 5 days time. I went to the appointment and spoke through everything with a lovely nurse she was honestly so kind and compassionate. I had to have a scan she confirmed I was 14+2 - I felt terrible. She asked me if I wanted to go ahead with a surgical and I confirmed so she looked for the next closest date which was London I said it wouldn’t be possible it’s 3 hours from me I don’t drive, I have children with very little support - then she said the next closest available appointment was for 13 days time in Birmingham around 30 mins from me so I decided that’s what I would go with. She then went through the procedure and explained I would be put to sleep for it which is what I wanted - she gave me the mifepristone pill which I had to take the day before the surgery, some leaflets and an STI test to take home with me.
Honestly the next 13 days were horrible - it was constantly on my mind I was constantly googling, watching TikTok’s, putting things in place incase I died my anxiety was through the roof.
The day came - my appointment was for 8:30am I was the first person there I went up to waiting room and was called in about 8:45am I had to go through my consent form, temperature & blood pressure. I had the procedure explained to me and was giving 800mg of ibuprofen and 2 misoprostol to dissolve under my tounge and sent back to the waiting room - I started cramping quite bad after around 10 mins then at 9:35am a nurse called me but as I stood up my water broke it was so unexpected as no one mentioned this could happen (the nurse said it’s very rare in her 3 years of working there she had never seen that) but I have quick labours so I think that may have added to why that happened. She helped me to the toilet and helped me undress and put a gown on and some socks - she put my clothes, bag etc into a basket.
I followed her down to the theatre room and there was about 7 people in there which was a little overwhelming but everything happened so fast. I lay down on the bed the surgeon introduced himself confirmed my name, DOB then the anaesthetist introduced himself popped the cannula in my hand whilst a nurse put an oxygen mask over my mouth asked me to take some big deep breathes and I must of been gone because it honestly felt like I blinked and I could here a voice saying ‘it’s time to wake up now’ i opened my eyes the first thing I did was check the implant had been put in my arm and noticed the time was 10:11am so I was literally put to sleep had to procedure and back awake within 25 minutes! I was lying in a bed in a recovery room with a blanket over me. The nurse said everything went well she gave me some water and checked my temperature, blood pressure and heart rate. She sat with me the whole time I felt fine I was rambling abit asking if I could keep the socks they gave me cus they where a nice colour 😂 I already had a pad on and some netted knickers she helped me up off the bed after about 10 minutes and I walked over to another recovery area which had big comfy chairs I had my blood pressure checked again and was giving a hot drink and some biscuits another nurse gave me my bag so I was able to message my mum to tell her I was alive 😂 I also had some water and paracetamol I sat there for about ten minutes and she asked me to go for a wee and leave my pad for her to check - there was spare pads and knickers in the toilet so I popped a fresh pad on and sat back in the recovery room finished my tea and had my blood pressure checked again they said everything was great so when I was ready they would pull the curtain around and I could get dressed. (Honestly it’s lucky that I took spare knickers and bottoms with me as my other ones where soaking wet from my water breaking so definitely take spare clothes with you) a nurse sat with me before I left explained what I should feel, what bleeding should be like and gave me a booklet with a helpline number etc then she walked me back to the waiting room where my mum was and I was free to go I left at 11:15am so I was there just under 3 hours all together. I was so shocked at how quick everything was and how smooth and straight forward it all was. All the staff at BPAS Birmingham south clinic are honestly amazing so kind and caring.
I was honestly so scared but it really wasn’t as bad as I was imagining in my head. If your going through this honestly you will be fine it’s a shitty situation to be in but you’ll get though it xxx