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Abortion

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Kkk17 · 19/02/2026 10:00

I had a termination 3 years ago when I was 42 I wanted to keep it but had so many obstacles in the way, my partner was fairly new and I didn't even know if we were going to work out and my ex and I had just split up with wasn't the best relationship was always shouting around the house and lies and manipulative. My daughter was 18 at the time and she said if I kept the child it would be a spastic child in her own words,my auntie and cousins said it was probably the best option to have termination. My partner who was fairly new at the time had 2 daughters who are older 30 and other one late twenties she is Autistic and was difficult with her and she still dosent want to see him now because weve moved in together. I am now living with my partner and I had a miscarriage last year , I have so much regret having that termination a few years ago I just wish i was stronger and not listened to everyone's opinions, I love my partner so much and feel like it would have completed us . I hate myself for the termination and I think its made me feel worse after having the miscarriage last year it was probably karma. Some days I plod through but other days are just so difficult. Has anyone been in a similar situation with termination and how did you feel . Thanks

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MylittleLamb · 20/02/2026 01:35

Hi I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this, as someone recently having an abortion, it is AWFUL! The emotional turmoil is so painful. One minute you are pregnant and loving on your child and next minute they are gone away from your body. It’s unreal, the pain of having them gone after being content in your heart for them. Pregnancy hormones, clouded mind, and pressures for others has us backed into a corner, it’s super sad. The only way out sometimes is termination. I wish no mother had to have choices this hard before. Unexpected and unplanned pregnancy is so sad and too much fear involved to make a clear decision. Only once you are not pregnant anymore do you see things more clearly. May our babies reunite with us or be waiting for us when the time comes at the end.

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