Unplanned fourth pregnancy. Freaking out and suffering horrendous morning sickness.

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me and DH have three lovely children aged 12, 8 and 6. In the last 6 months we bought a little house that’s just right and DH got a promotion so life has been great.
We had tried for a fourth baby after DC6 but nothing happened in all that time so we grew to accept we’d never have another baby. Then a couple of days ago I had a positive pregnancy test and sadly my reaction was not what I hoped it would be. I feel devastated. I feel like I’m sabotaging this happy life we’ve created with a new baby (finances, space in the house, holiday sacrifices) but at the same time whilst I’m pro choice I feel scared about an abortion in case I regret it, because we tried so long for a fourth. I have no idea what to do and I also feel like my judgement is clouded by my awful morning sickness.

I’ve been in a similar situation to you, found out I was pregnant with my fourth and panicked. I went to have a termination twice and couldn’t go through with it. Thank god I didn’t because I’m now holding my gorgeous week old baby who has made our family complete. Nothings changed for the worse only tor the better. I had terrible morning sickness too which was awful at the time yes but I would do it again in a heartbeat for the end result I have now. I hope this helps and wishing you all the best.

I think you would deeply regret your decision. Abortions when in awful circumstances or when very young and unstable are very different to abortions when married and settled in a happy family with children. You only have to look through the threads here to see that, many experience regret but not all. Abortion might be normalised but it’s still your child you will most likely feel will always be missing. It’s biological and I think cuts deeper especially after already having children. I’m pro choice btw but speaking from personal experience and what I’ve read here. Finances can be adjusted, a bedroom isn’t even needed for the first 1 year + and you can still go on holiday. In the grand scheme of things it’s very minor inconvenient timing but a life long bond for your children and family to enjoy.