baby 3 / abortion????

[geex08]

Hi, I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with baby #3. I feel so lucky.

back story…
I have a 10 year old (previous partner, nothing to do with him) and have been with my current partner for almost 6 years, we have a 16 month old together. It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive him after having a miscarriage and being told by fertility that the chances of us conceiving naturally are slim to none. I’ve always been open about wanting 1 more child and he’s been on the fence about it.. but anyway, I found out a couple days ago that I am pregnant. After not being
’careful’ for months may I add so not like we’ve been doing anything to prevent it.. he knows how a baby is made. Only 5 weeks. He’s adamant that we’re not keeping it because ‘we’re not ready’.. I know it’s my body so ultimately it’s my decision at the end of it.
but I know either way it’ll be the end of the relationship.. if I decide to keep it, he will leave. And if I got rid, I wouldn’t be able to face him and I would blame him. He says he’d have another, just not yet. But my worry is, what if it doesn’t happen again?!
he sees me as being unfair by saying i don’t think I can mentally go through with an abortion. But I don’t know if I’d cope without him having a 10,2year old and a newborn by myself. I’m worried about struggling, juggling the kids and financially wise.
I have plenty of support from my family and friends and they’ve said that I wouldn’t be alone, which is true. But I don’t want just the baby, I want the family too.
I dont know what the point of my post is.. any single mums that have 2 little ones close together can give me the honest truth of the pros and cons please?
im so stressed😭

Had the both of you discussed contraception before this? If not, what did he think would happen? My advice would be not to have an abortion if it’s something you’ll regret. I can’t advise you on being a single mum but if you don’t get responses here consider posting it in AIBU section which is more active. Best of luck.

I was alone with 2 under 2 and was a single mum for 5 years. I loved having them so close together. Similar bedtimes, similar eating habits, loved playing the same games, holidays were fun as they were just interested in the same things so I didn’t feel torn ever. Of course it’s bloody HARD but mine are now 9 & 10 and whilst they do argue now, they never did when they were younger! Out of all the reasons not to have a baby (and I understand there’s some) I wouldn’t worry about the age gap concern being one x

I had my termination due to the das not wanting it . Please do not to it for that reason . The emotional suffering that comes after a termination is horrific. I deeply regretted mine . I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. That is my experience. If your heart was happy when you found out keep you baby lose the man. You will make it work . I hate saying to anyone here to keep or don't keep but when it comes to the dad pushing you I always say lose the man not the man . He can leave you at any point in the future your babies are forever. Saying have one later ? It's a human life not a takeaway food order . Mind yourself mama 🩷