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Termination regret at 17 weeks

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Boymum2256 · 04/01/2026 15:18

No judgement please.

im almost 17 weeks pregnant due to have surgery this week I was given mifepristone to take before surgery to dilate cervix, I took this last night and I have woke up with this unbearable regret and guilt and I’m thinking what have I done to my little baby girl. I know it’s probably too late and she is most likely gone so there’s nothing I can do other than sit with my emotions.

has anyone else been in this situation where they took the tablet and regret it after ?

am I a bad person for terminating my baby because of mental and financial circumstances also me and the dad aren’t together so I’d be on my own with 3 children? I know the decision was out of love for the baby and myself and also my children I already have, I wouldn’t of survived mentally with 3 on my own but now I’ve took it I can’t stop thinking about how I probably could of done it. I’m beating myself up so bad about it.

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Clangershome · 04/01/2026 22:10

You can call 111 for advice and hopefully you will speak to a GP. You have the option of just waiting and seeing as I have heard that you have a 50% chance of continuing. You can ask for progesterone perhaps but I don’t know if that is necessary at 17 weeks. It may all work out for you so keep hope and call for advice!! I think I read your previous posts so I am very sorry about all you are going through. How do you know it is a girl?

SilverScales · 06/01/2026 00:44

I don't think mifepristone alone is usually enough to cause an abortion at 17 weeks. If you're not 100% sure that this is what you want to do, PLEASE talk to your doctor and see what your options are. Have you been bleeding at all? So sorry for all you're going through.

Boymum2256 · 10/01/2026 11:40

Update-

my waters broke Wednesday night I ended up passing baby girl at the hospital at 16+5 weeks and I’ve had a very traumatic few days

i ended up loosing 3.5 litres of blood and I’m now on my 3rd blood transfusion, I passed the baby but had to go for emergency surgery to remove the placenta because of the amount of blood it was causing me to loose.

I’ve seen and held baby girl and she’s just the most gorgeous cute thing she looked so peaceful and I’m trusting god to look after her now 🩷

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Clangershome · 10/01/2026 18:13

I’m so sorry to hear this ❤️

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