Help/ advice - accidentally pregnant with third!

[mango0101]

As title says - no idea what to do. Have been playing with fire (with husband) I kind of thought I would want a third - and my husband didn’t. Anyway it’s happened and I feel ill as I don’t think I want to go ahead. We’re financially stable, but live to our absolute limits it feels! Please give advice!

Hello @mango0101 , I'm sorry that you are in this difficult position. Am I correct that you and your husband had sex without birth control because you thought you'd be okay having another child? Was that a mutual decision? The only advice I can really give is to be careful making a decision based mostly on feelings. There are so many people who have posted here saying they wanted a baby, got pregnant, felt overwhelmed, got an abortion, and then immediately regretted it. Today you might feel like you don't want another child, but you must have felt differently a short while ago, and you could feel differently in a week or two. I hope you'll at least give yourself a month to talk this out with your husband and figure out your priorities and your "big picture" vision for your family's future. Also if you feel that you could handle the emotional consequences of abortion. Your post was so short, if you want to post again with more details, I'm sure you'll get more responses and points of view. Please don't act too quickly, give yourself the gift of time to carefully consider this. Three children can be a manageable amount, I was the oldest of three and I'm still close with my siblings.

@mango0101 hope you’re doing ok.

Whatever choice you make will be the right one for you. Take your time. Perhaps not a month but a week isn’t as long as it will feel to you right now. Thinking of you

How are you getting on.. what did you decide? I’m in the same position and don’t know what to do, we can financially afford a third but it would certainly stretch us and mean we couldn’t do some of the nice things we can afford now. I don’t know if it would be unfair on my existing 2 children to go ahead but equally don’t know if I will be able to live with the ‘what ifs’ of the alternative