Pregnant and unsure

[Justforfun1122739]

I’m looking for some advice. I’ve recently fallen pregnant and I’m really unsure on what do about it, I have an appointment booked in for next week at an abortion clinic but I don’t think I can go through with it. I already have a DD who has just turned 2 and has suspended asd also is non verbal and she is a lot to care for already which I do all by myself. Her dad doesn’t do a lot we’ve only just got back together a few months ago and he thinks I should have a termination. I really want another baby but I just don’t think right now that it’s the right time, I keep going back and forth in my head and it’s hurting me just the thought of having an abortion. I know if I went through with the pregnancy the dad wouldn’t be happy and I know I would be basically doing it all alone like I already do. Has anyone ever been in this situation and can give me any advice?

I'm sorry you're scared. If you want another then 2.5 is a good age gap and surely a lot of 2 year olds are non verbal? Whatever you decide will be fine.

No, being non-verbal at 2 and having suspected ASD at this age is not the norm. By 24 months most DC will be able to put 2 or 3 words together.

@Justforfun1122739I really feel for you. What you seem to have is choice pf looking after obe DC with disabilities and keeping your relationship or having 2DC. As ASD is do hereditary there will be a higher chance that the DC2 will also be ND.

And there is of course no guarantee that your “D”P will stick around anyway. It would also be natural that there woukd be sone resentment. Him if you went through went through with the PG and you if you felt forced into having a termination and resentment isn’t good for any relationship.

Two is very young to be going through the process of assessment for ASD though, has anyone offered any genetic testing yet?

Hello @Justforfun1122739 , how are you doing? I've been thinking about you and hope you're okay. I hope your partner is not pushing you into abortion if that's not what you truly want. Hope to hear back from you dear.