Anyone hoping to not be pregnant?

[thecomedyofterrors]

I’m sorry if this is insensitive to anyone. I have finished having children and am early 40’s. I don’t really track my period but keep a fairly accurate record of ovulation, to avoid pregnancy! But it’s now 2 weeks since unprotected sex (as I thought I was past ovulation) and no period So now I’m worried. It took over a year to to conceive my kids, so this would be so unlucky…

When were you due a period

It is a bit insensitive on a pregnancy board. Take a test and find out.

This! ^

You're on a pregnancy forum where people are losing their babies at different gestations and you've put on about not wanting to be pregnant... of course its going to be insensitive to people.

Take a test, if its positive, have a termination and get on some sort of contraception, just to let you know the pull out method isn't the safest if you're trying to avoid pregnancy.

Also if you dont 'really track your periods' how do you know that you're late?
It could be anything from stress to illness if you are late.

Bloody hell, did I seriously just read that post!?

You are 40 years of age! Do you really need to post something like this? Especially during baby loss awareness month and a day after the Wave of Light!? How insensitive are you!!

I lost my baby boy at 16 weeks last year and I am now pregnant (15 weeks on Tuesday) and there is absolutely no thought about not wanting to be pregnant. If you haven’t gone through the menopause there is absolutely a risk you could be pregnant, you should have taken the morning after pill or just used contraception to begin with!

My 14 year old daughter who is studying Child Development for GCSE seems to know better than you!

Hello @thecomedyofterrors, have you taken a pregnancy test yet?

Wow @thecomedyofterrors. Your feelings about what might or might not be happening with your own body are totally legitimate!

I'm sure you know the risks with the method of contraception you’re using and don’t need that pointed out.

People can have such blinkered vision.

Thinking of you. It’s your body. Sincerely, a Mum who’s suffered loss on more than one occasion but can still understand that life isn’t black and white.

I’m sorry to hear about your losses.

I have also suffered more than one loss but this post was completely insensitive, especially at this time of the year. I understand that life isn’t always black and white but if you don’t want to be pregnant then there are precautions you can take i.e. contraception or abstinence. Especially if you are actively trying to avoid pregnancy. Sperm can live up to 7-10 days so tracking a fertility window, or ovulation, which occurs over 24-48hours isn’t an effective method of contraception.

Had the OP been on contraception which failed then I think she would get a more understanding response.

Hopefully the OP had found out by now and is taking appropriate steps to prevent this happening in the first place.

@ExhaustedPigeon37 totally get what you’re saying. Wouldn’t be my choice of contraception if I genuinely didn’t want another either. Particularly if I didn’t have a track on my period. I guess not everyone has the same knowledge about their cycle etc. which can be really hard for us to understand.

I guess I just think it’s done now and likely doesn’t need the guilt whilst in a crisis. I have empathy for all of you. It’s such an emotive subject.

I’m also aware that I don’t know what board the original thread was on so potentially looked worse where you first saw it than me :)

Im due this week i think i as was but late last month

I think it is abit harsh. Mumsnet is a forum to have these discussions anonymously. My guess is that their question isn’t aimed at anyone that is suffering from a loss, but looking for anyone that feels the way she feels right now. Sometimes we cannot switch our feelings on or off.

Some women don’t want to be pregnant. That’s why we have abortion as a service. Many women avoid becoming pregnant and that is why we have contraception.

I would say OP do a test and come back - if you are not pregnant then this was uneedrd - unless you want a handhold while you wait. If you are then there is some thinking to do.