5 kids, 3 dads , What would you do?

[Daisyqueen35]

I’m really struggling with everything right now.
my eldest 3 are from my marriage. My fourth was a short relationship, not planned, dd4 is now 3. I’ve only just started dating someone for the past 2 months, we dtd once and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. Like I’m so in shock. I think realistically it would be stupid of me to continue the pregnancy. I don’t want to have 3 BD’s. What if we don’t last. Financially I can’t really afford the ones I have! But on the other hand, will I be able to forgive myself?
I need advice, opinions and everything in between.
do I tell the dad? Or do I end the pregnancy and keep it from him? I feel horrible even writing that!
thank you for reading x

Hi @Daisyqueen35 , I read your post yesterday and took a little time to think about it, as it's quite a situation you find yourself in.

There are no easy answers about what you should do, and you are wise to be worried about the emotional aftermath of an abortion. It hits many women much harder than they expected it to, and can last a long time. So many people say, I'll just get an abortion to solve the problem, and worry about the emotional and mental consequences later. Many wish they could go back and make a different choice.

How old are you, and how old are your eldest three children? Are they somewhat independent (meaning can they take care of themselves, to some extent) or still on the younger side? Would it affect your decision if you knew your partner wanted a child and was willing to have partial custody or help in other ways?

You may want to ask yourself, when do you believe that life begins? Do you feel you could live with the decision to end a pregnancy and taking the steps to do that? You can spend hours reading through the experiences of women who kept their baby and women who chose abortion, but in the end, you will have to make this decision based on your own head and heart. Many people in this world exist because their parents took a big risk and had them. It's not stupid if it's the way forward that feels right to you. Feel free to post again with more details if you'd like to think this through, and you might get some more insights. Hope you are getting through the days okay.

I wouldn't keep OP. Sorry it's not a nice thing to have to do but I would think of your current children. Do you work? What about bedroom space?

The relationship with the different fathers and the impact on all the kids. It would be a no for me.