Hello,
Im a 31 yo mother of 3, my 2 youngest are to my DH and my eldest from a previous relationship. I have recently found out I am pregnant after taking a morning after pill due to contraception failure, I am between 6 and 7 weeks. This came as a complete shock to us after we both decided we wouldn’t have any more children although my DH would change his mind and sometimes say he would consider having one more.
We discussed what we were going to do and my DH is pushing for abortion. I feel like I can’t make a decision. I know that he is right about us not having a big enough house or car and struggling financially if we bring another child into our lives but it is breaking my heart. My DH had a change of heart on Friday night and said we should just go for it and we will get by. This gave me hope and we spoke about the baby. We wondered about the gender, spoke about names etc. but the next day he said he had changed his mind again and made the decision for both of us without letting me have a much of an input.
I have cried every day about having an abortion and I’m not sure I can go through with it. I have had telephone consultations and medication is ready for me to collect tomorrow. I support my DH reasons but I feel like he doesn’t understand what I’m going through in my mind. He doesn’t comfort me when I cry or tell him how upset and scared I feel. I have never done this before and never imagined I ever would have to go through this. I feel miserable and he just tells me to cheer up and it’ll be over soon. I don’t feel like it will be over for a long time. We are also going on holiday abroad in almost 2 weeks time and he made a remark that I better not be miserable like this on holiday. He also keeps getting on at me asking when it’s gonna get sorted, when will I get a phone call, the sooner the better. I just feel he is being insensitive and it really hurts.
I have tried to speak to my mother but she is about as insensitive as he is. I know it’s the right thing to do for us as a family but it really breaks my heart.