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Was wondering if anyone has been in the same boat , my son is 3 and I have just found out I’m pregnant but now I’m wondering if it’s what I actually want , he’s the best boy he is so well behaved never any problem and we love going out doing things as a family , now I’m wondering if adding a baby will just change him and I feel complete guilt already, I feel where he is such a good boy he deserves so much , he goes to bed at 7 every night so we get the whole evenings to ourselves and just chill , also he sleeps all night to ..
Financially we could just about cope but would have cut back on things , wouldn’t be able go back to my job as the childcare isn’t there anymore

anyone got any advice ?!

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I think these are normal worries and I wouldn't jump to termination. At the moment, another baby is just an abstract thought and all your worries can easily run away with you... When baby is actually there then you will almost certainly love them as much as your son and it will slot into the same routines. Take a breath... Think positively... Good luck to you.

I think these feelings are totally normal when you find out you’re expecting another. I remember feeling like this when expecting my second. It comes under those feelings that everyone talks about- not knowing if you can love another as much and then when they are here you realise your heart somehow just expands. Now when I look at my two together I think my youngest is 100000% the best gift I could ever have given my eldest. Good luck!

Were you trying to conceive, but are now doubting yourself? Or was this an unintended pregnancy?

If you were open to another child, I think that feeling doubt when the pregnancy happens is common. The relationship between siblings is a special one, it's hard to imagine life without my sister. And the emotional aftermath from termination can be much harder than many people realize- it doesn't just make everything go back to the way things were. Don't only think of the next few years, consider all the years after that as well. Hope you find a way forward you feel confident and good about, all my best to you!