So scared and don't know what to do!

[Yourmylobster]

Hi everyone,

It's my first time posting on Mumsnet but I don't feel able to talk to anyone about this in person yet.

Me and my partner have two children aged 6 and 2. Yesterday I found out I am unexpectedly pregnant, we haven't been trying and I must have missed a pill.

Every since the 2 lines appeared I have been filled with absolute panic, I didn't sleep a wink last night.

I just don't think I can go through with this, but I don't want to make any rash decisions.

I have spoken to my partner and he would like to keep it but is also 100% supportive of whatever decision make.

I haven't rang the GP or anyone yet and I just feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Please can someone tell me that this panic will pass and I will be able to think clearly. I never felt this way with my other 2 and I feel so guilty that I'm feeling this way now.

So sorry to ramble on I just think I need a hand hold and some reassuring words.

Thanks for listening x

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Hello OP,
I don't have any experience of your situation, but it must be very difficult!
It sounds like you have a good and supportive partner that listens to you, that's a good thing. Can you two sit down and talk about it again, just to get to talk it about some more?
I'm sure the panic will pass soon, you only found out yesterday. Breath, and be kind to yourself.

Hopefully someone that knows more about these things will come along with some advice!

I'm sending you an hug over the Internet!

It sounds like a big shock. You very much are in panic mode and need to give yourself time to think clearly before doing anything. Try to separate any real concerns from concerns that are just based on worry and 'what ifs'. It's not a situation where there is a right or wrong choice, but maybe just whichever you think you and your family could live with more easily. If your husband wants to keep, sit down and discuss what that will look like for your family and ways you can make it work, or reasons it won't work.

Good luck to you.

Good advice from @ByDreamyMintNewt .

@Yourmylobster I'm thinking of you, and I hope you're OK.

Thank you both so much for your replies. I appreciate it very much! The panic is slowly subsiding and I feel in a few days I'll be able to see things with a lot clearer. I managed to get some sleep last night so the adrenaline is slowly subsiding 😅

Good that you could get some sleep! And good that you feel calmer now.

Hello @Yourmylobster , I'm sorry that your pregnancy came so unexpectedly, but I'm glad you're giving yourself time to think it over. Many women abort quickly while still feeling those shocked, panicked emotions, but later wish they'd given themselves more time to consider adding a child to the family. Another baby would be a big change for your family, but quite possibly a change for the better. Since your partner is open to another baby, maybe you can ask him how he'd help if you need him to do more around the house. Or maybe he'd be willing to have a vasectomy so you know that you never have a surprise like this in the future and could feel more secure. I hope that the two of you can talk this out and feel confident going forward.