Termination tomorrow but so scared

[Bambamxx]

Hi all

I’m pregnant with baby number 4. I had my ds only 4 months ago, so as you can imagine this pregnancy was such a HUGE shock.
my partner has been supportive although a little gutted of my decision not to go through with the pregnancy.

one minute I’m ready for my appointment and can’t wait for it to be over with, and the next I’m considering if it’s the right thing to do.
my emotions are very and down, I’ve been crying all evening as I’m petrified the guilt of the termination will eat me alive!
I just wanted to know others stories / opinions on their personal experience.

Do not do it it ruined my life

@Bambamxx wow that must have been a shock. I say that whilst holding my own 4 month old 3rd child…

Hope you’re ok today whatever decision you’ve made.

Hello @Bambamxx, I hope you're ok? How did today go? Thinking of you and whatever decision you have made, you will be absolutely fine x

Hi hun

I hope you're okay . The only advice I can offer you is please make sure you're 100% sure in your decision. Once it's done there is no going back and I know that sounds stupid. But the weight of the finality of it all is incredibly tough to deal with. 🩷

I've been in the situation twice. First time I had medical at 6 weeks and had absolutely no hesitation about doing it. I sat with the pills for a few hours pondering all the different outcomes and knew the right answer was to go ahead and take the pills.
Second time I could not decide and kept on delaying my appointments until 23 weeks. Eventually I decided to continue the pregnancy. I agonised and tortured myself for the last 6 weeks of making and cancelling appointments but it was just what I needed to do. Whatever you decide is the right decision for you at the time and don't punish yourself (easier said than done, I am still working on this myself!). Recommend speaking to Choices Charity if you can, they are brilliant.