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Pregnancy after abortion to heal

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stringbeans33 · 31/08/2025 10:26

I had an unwanted termination almost a year ago and it’s wrecked me. My partner pressured me to terminate so I went to a crisis pregnancy counsellor and she further pressured me. My partner eventually came around and wanted to do the right thing. I told this to the counsellor and that I wanted to keep it and she said “you might never see your family again” (I live in a diff country to my family). This happened the day before the last day to terminate and I panicked and went through with it. Regretted it immediately.

I’ve been struggling with my mental health so much since. The only times I’m not depressed is when my partner and I are planning on having another baby soon. Unfortunately he lost his job two or three months ago. We’ve been fighting constantly, he hasn’t been helping around the house because he’s depressed from the job loss but it pissed me to be doing everything. I decided to leave and move out because I couldn’t have a baby with him if he doesn’t have a job or help out etc.

so I’m moved out and I’ve been crying nonstop since. Not even because of the break up, but because of the baby. I’m seriously wondering if I just need to get pregnant again to heal the hole in my heart. I know it won’t take it away completely but maybe it will make it smaller. Partner got a job once I moved out

im wondering if anyone has gotten pregnant after a regretted abortion and how that went. It seems like the only way I’ll be able to heal. I can’t even look at babies pregnant women or nappies etc without getting so upset.

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Clangershome · 31/08/2025 12:17

I’m sorry you were pressured both by your partner and crisis pregnancy counsellor. I would have thought they would have been able to be helpful but in my experience also MSI were encouraging for me to terminate. Does that mean you were 24 weeks? That would be very hard to deal with in the aftermath and a year would still be early days to heal.

have you got children already?

do you want a baby truly or just to heal? I mean was the pressure just from others or did you feel like you didn’t want a baby?

if you do want one then you could focus on how to do that? Whether it be finding a new partner or going solo with a donor.

if that’s what you want then go for it. How old are you?

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