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Is abortion the right choice for me?

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Caitssk · 20/08/2025 16:22

Hi
I'm just wanting some outsiders options on my situation.
I'm currently pregnant, I'm 28, I have a daughter who's 6, since birth she was born with liver disease and all her life is in and out of hospital which we have to go to London for, we are from Scotland. and now is on the liver transplant list which can come anytime from now could be months years we don't know

I'm with my partner who I'm pregnant with, he is not the dad of my daughter and has no kids he wants children but I am considering abortion due to the fact I am always in and out of hospital going away for days and weeks at a time, when the transplant comes I could be months gone in London and if I was to go through with pregnancy it could come with a newborn or heavily pregnant, I can't take the newborn with to the hospital for months as the baby wouldn't be allowed to stay at night in ward. My partner would have to look after baby but then he couldn't run his business and work.
I feel like having a baby would be too much added stress onto the stress I already have with my daughters health and caring for her, I struggle to come round to the terms of caring for both.. I'm not sure what is the best decision in my case but I want me to be healthy for my daughter. I feel bad for partner if I do abort as he has no children and wants one. I'm not bothered if I have another or not in my lifetime as I have my daughter and she's enough for me

Any opinions or what you would do in this situation would be so appreciated!

OP posts:
SilverScales · 23/08/2025 03:41

I'm so sorry your daughter has liver problems and hope that a transplant will come up for her soon. 💛
There are a lot of things you should consider about your current pregnancy. Is childcare something that would be available if needed? Maybe your partner could take care of a child if day care was a possibility? The other question is if he has parents or other family in the area who would be able to help if there were times you were not able to care for two children. There are nice things about being an only child but a lot of nice things about having a brother or sister too. And an abortion could be harder on you than you might think, unless you've already gone through it and know how it affects you.
Does your partner know you're pregnant? Maybe you should discuss how it might work out together so you're not alone in this decision.

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