Partner trying to force me to abort

[Sadblonde]

Hi again, I’m 39f and my partner is 44m I have three grown up children and he has one aged 9 from a previous relationship. I’m a vet nurse and he’s a teacher. So I’m 13 weeks pregnant. He wasn’t happy but ok- then he spent the weekend with his mum and daughter and has turned very forceful. Going from “damn you” to “I’m begging you”, he tells me I can’t love him and I’m letting everyone including my children down. I know how impractical and stupid this is but I can’t abort. I can’t get him to understand it’s not something I can deal with. How do I go forward? Everything is very maritime all around me and it’s taking away my appetite and just generally making me feel like the most selfish person.

Everything is very negative *

Hello @Sadblonde , I'm sorry your partner is acting this way and not listening to you. It is not stupid that you don't want to abort, not at all. Was he supportive of the pregnancy until now? Do you think his mother put negative ideas in his head? How long have you two been together?

No person should be forced to abort against their will. You have had three children and I'm guessing that you already feel warm feelings toward the one growing now. At thirteen weeks, the baby is small but fully formed. In a few more weeks you may feel kicking or movement. HE is the selfish one if he thinks that on a whim he can tell you what to do with the child he helped create. You are the one who will be impacted the most by an abortion or a new baby. It doesn't sound like this man loves you the way you deserve to be loved. Maybe he's better most of the time and now he's panicking. But I hope you'll be strong and assertive, tell him how you really feel, and don't compromise on this.

I hope to hear back from you and how you're doing, I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.

Hiya, I’ve put my
foot firmly down- to be truthful he’s always said he doesn’t want more children although he is an overbearing parent to his 9yr old daughter. I think I’m just feeling very silly for finding myself in this position- he doesn’t love me and I’m not sure I do him as it’s turning quite unpleasant really and personal. Thank you for your words of encouragement.

I'm glad you're not going to tolerate that kind of treatment from him. Are you planning to leave him, and will you be all right on your own? I hope this will be a fresh new chapter of your life as you deserve much better!