Pregnant from one night stand (condoms and pill) - ashamed

[Lilac956]

I do not really know what to say, just need to talk. I had sex just over a week ago for the first time in 2 years. Was a first date and a few bottles of wine later.

He was nice, but since then the chat had died down and we aren’t really talking. I do not want a baby. I am 30, no savings in a small house share.

I just can’t believe it. I’m a paranoid person - we used condoms and I took the morning after pill. I just feel so ashamed and not sure where to go from here.

My periods are irregular so im not sure date to tell Dr. But I definitely know conception date.

I don’t really know what to ask, but if anyone has been in a similar position? My first test was blurred so I took a digital.

I had sex last Friday, so that is only 9-10 days so I was shocked to see a positive result this early?

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.
if you feel like you do not wish to have a baby, and are capable of abortion then that is indeed a option you can take.

but only if you are 100% sure I’m here if you wish to talk further through emotions, I’m currently healing from mine although it was a wanted pregnancy by me due to other reasons.. it felt out of my control.

You’re not alone in this 🫂

I've just gone through this. I knew I would be pregnant as the pharmacist said the MAP doesn't work when you are ovulating.

I had a medical abortion just over a week ago. The guy didn't want to know and that was even before I confirmed it. I didn't want to be a single mum of 2 DC. I also don't have a family network so felt like I had no choice.

Hope you have a friend to speak with OP.

It sounds like nothing short of a miracle that you conceived while using two forms of birth control. You might want to let the shock wear off a bit before making your final decision. Have you ever wanted to be a mum? Is the finances the main issue? The man responsible usually has to pay child support for children he helped create. It's worth thinking about, as you've discovered the pregnancy so early that you have more time than many people to think things over. But don't be ashamed, this was not something you could have expected to happen.

Hey lovely. Just a quick question what do you mean by MAP doesn’t work when you’re ovulating ? 🫂

To update - I got my period and negative blood test, so was an unnecessary panic! Thank you all

@124hdjdbdu Hi, often if you have had unprotected sex in your ovulation window and take the morning after pill such as Ella one even the next day. It does not work!

Obviously ovulation window makes you super fertile so unfortunately I got pregnant.

Amazing news! So happy for you I’d hate for anyone to have to go through an abortion as it is ( even if it is their choice it’s never easy! 🫂) I’m so glad it all worked out okay in the end! Xx