I want to put this baby up for adoption

[Gemilu]

Please no Hate as a mum struggling this is the only option
Im already a mum to 3 children (16,6 and 3)
Ive just found out im 28 weeks pregnant... Yep 28weeks its what they call a cryptic pregnancy im not showing and yes no periods because i had a coil fitted 2 years ago and haven't had one since...
Anyway obviously as you can imagine this is all a total shock but one thing i do no is that i can't mentally, physically, emotionally and financially have this baby. Sounds horrible but i dont feel bonded at all since finding out but with my other 3 i loved them as soon a i did
Im a struggling single mum (me and kids dad split a few months ago and he doesn't want the baby)
Ive only just started to get my life back and i feel like having this baby will put me in a downwards spiral again which is not fair on the 3 children i already have... I guess what im here for is some help, how to start the process of putting this baby up for adoption and anyone else been through the same thing and there outcomes

I have no idea how you start the process, I would phone my local authority Social Services and ask to speak to the adoption team.

I believe you may have to start by calling some local adoption centres and if they can't help they will point you in the right direction. I would love to adopt and know the process myself.

@Gemilu I just wanted to say you are very compassionate and brave to be willing to let a loving person or family adopt your baby. There are "open adoptions" available if you care to keep in touch with the child, or closed ones if you feel that would be easiest not to have any contact. If you let me know what country you live in, I can try to find a reputable agency for you to work with. Fertility problems are more common than most people realize, and there are always many on the waiting list hoping to adopt. It's not horrible at all if you don't have the means or energy to care for another child, to still let that child have a life. My husband has two sisters who are adopted and even though they are not the same color skin as the rest of the family, I forget all the time that they are adopted, we all love them as much as the biological members of his family.

Just a thought that you may by chance feel differently as time goes on. I am sure you are still in shock given the situation of finding out so late etc.

the hospital must be able to give you contacts for someone to speak to for advice and / or adoption agencies? I have genuinely considered adoption myself but am not on a waitlist otherwise I would have raised my hand.

good luck and seek support from professionals. Mumsnet is good for chat and experiences but this is for the professionals.