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Pregnancy Termination

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Sunshine776094 · 03/08/2025 00:51

Hi just looking for some advice. I had a medical termantion 7 weeks ago. Everything went well I bleed for a week and half and than did the pregnancy test provided by Bpas and it was negative. Than my period didn’t arrive by week 5 so I got some home bargains cheap test strips and they started coming up faint positive but now the lines are getting darker. I’ve got no other pregnancy symptoms apart from running to the bathroom a lot to pass urine. I had really bad pain in middle of my stomach went hospital today and they did blood tests and urine tests they said everything is normal no hcg showing on blood tests. Now am booked for a scan on Monday but am worried sick and just looking for reassurance as what it can be as am so scared and also suffer from anxiety.

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Micsam89 · 03/08/2025 00:55

Have you had sex since your termination? You might be pregnant again if so.

user188277288282828 · 03/08/2025 01:02

Yes it’s either you’re pregnant again or it didn’t terminate properly

hhtddbkoygv · 03/08/2025 05:33

Sorry I didn't mean to vote that yabu.

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Sunshine776094 · 03/08/2025 20:52

I didn’t know that u can ovulate so quickly after and get pregnant so quick aswell. I had an appointment booked for the coil did have unprotected sex in between a few times was getting ready to go for my coil appointment did a test just to make sure and it was positive very faint but now the lines are progressing getting darker. Am so tired it’s all my fault wish they told me that am going to be super fertile after termantion I wouldn’t have let my man anywhere near me till I had contraception sorted. Am scared am going to have to do it all again the termantion and am going to get judged by the nurses

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Katemax82 · 03/08/2025 21:21

The nurses shouldn't judge you its not their place too. You need to make sure you get decent contraception advice, its their job to help you not judge you

Nametobechanged · 03/08/2025 21:26

The test from bpas isn’t as sensitive as normal pregnancy tests from what I can remember.

DiscoDancingDoris · 03/08/2025 22:36
Ytho GIF

You had unprotected sex a few times after a termination?

KnittyNell · 03/08/2025 23:40

DiscoDancingDoris · 03/08/2025 22:36

You had unprotected sex a few times after a termination?

Hard to believe isn’t it?😬

Tink3rbell30 · 04/08/2025 00:23

They will call you back in for another lot of abortion medication.

hhtddbkoygv · 04/08/2025 01:09

Sunshine776094 · 03/08/2025 20:52

I didn’t know that u can ovulate so quickly after and get pregnant so quick aswell. I had an appointment booked for the coil did have unprotected sex in between a few times was getting ready to go for my coil appointment did a test just to make sure and it was positive very faint but now the lines are progressing getting darker. Am so tired it’s all my fault wish they told me that am going to be super fertile after termantion I wouldn’t have let my man anywhere near me till I had contraception sorted. Am scared am going to have to do it all again the termantion and am going to get judged by the nurses

To be fair you can get pregnant at any time. You shouldn't have unprotected sex at all if you don't want to get pregnant.

Hankunamatata · 04/08/2025 01:25

Um unprotected sex = pregnancy
Not sure why you thought it would be ok to have unprotected sex

https://www.bpas.org/abortion-care/abortion-treatments/the-abortion-pill/remote-treatment/

Pregnancy Termination
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Sunshine776094 · 04/08/2025 04:38

@Hankunamatata If you got nothing nice to say don’t say anything. Am already really stressed out and came here looking for some support.

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Dingdongwhat · 04/08/2025 05:27

Sunshine776094 · 04/08/2025 04:38

@Hankunamatata If you got nothing nice to say don’t say anything. Am already really stressed out and came here looking for some support.

Then take some responsibility for the situation. "I didn't know" doesn't really cut it. Inform yourself.

And it's termination.

StampOnTheGround · 04/08/2025 05:31

It sounds like a very stressful time, I’m sorry. However, you do have to take ownership of this, if you have unprotected sex at any time there’s a chance it could lead to pregnancy, that’s a known fact.

dottiedodah · 04/08/2025 05:42

I'm sorry you are going through this. As you realise now .you can get pregnant at any time .however you mafe a mistake. Don't beat yourself up over it.go to hospital and get checked. The Nurses aren't there to judge you .you won't be the first or last in this position that's for sure! After make sure you sort out reliable contraception. They will.be able to help you .Speak to GP about it.Are you quite young.Don't worry just get sorted and move on

Robinredd · 04/08/2025 05:44

You lot are a fucking horrible bunch.

None of you know anything about the OP, we've no idea of her age or background, and whether she has any real life support. Some women/girls aren't full of knowledge on all things fertility related. Some were genuinely never taught!

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP and when you come to as site like MN hoping to get support from other women 'mums' these are the replies you get.

The nurses shouldn't be judging you. In fact they should actually be arming you with the knowledge that you can get pregnant straight after a termination. When you've just had a baby they inform you about contraception and that you can get pregnant very quickly after giving birth so it should be the same when you've had a termination.

A blood test testing for HCG is actually more sensitive and reliable than a urine test so if they've done bloods testing for HCG it's highly unlikely that you are newly pregnant or still pregnant post termination.

When I did IVF my clinic did a blood test to test for pregnancy rather than get you to do a home test because the bloods were more reliable.

I hope you have some real life support and I'm sorry that when you came here for support you were met with people who for some reason have had an empathy bypass.

CantDecorateWontDecorate · 04/08/2025 05:51

Not being taught doesn't really cut it these days when most of us have Google at our finger tips. Since OP is posting on here it is safe to assume she would have access to all of the information online.

HeyThereDelila · 04/08/2025 06:23

If you don’t want to get pregnant you should never have unprotected sex- ever. Use condoms at the very least.

Buy a good quality test and see your GP if BPAS aren’t looking after you properly.

FluffyRabbitGal · 04/08/2025 06:30

When ever I have had coils inserted and changed I was advised not to have sex (even protected) for a week prior as the sperm can live for up to a week to be fertilised. Depending on when you’re due to have your coil inserted, they may not proceed with implantation if you’ve had sex within a week as it could then put you at risk of ectopic pregnancy. Fingers crossed everything works out for you.

crumblingschools · 04/08/2025 06:33

Why isn’t your partner doing anything about contraception? If you definitely don’t want DC I would be doubling up anyway

Sometimeswinning · 04/08/2025 06:49

I mean both you and your partner need to wise up a lot. It’s sounds as though the blood tests came up negative so you should be fine. Unless you’ve had sex since then?

This is one of those cases where you are using abortion for birth control. You’re more likely to get judged on here for being completely irresponsible than you are by any medical staff involved in your termination.

Im pro abortion but I still think people should be responsible for themselves. It’s not a popular opinion on here so you will get a lot of posters telling you not to worry and it’s not a big deal.

Dingdongwhat · 04/08/2025 06:52

Sometimeswinning · 04/08/2025 06:49

I mean both you and your partner need to wise up a lot. It’s sounds as though the blood tests came up negative so you should be fine. Unless you’ve had sex since then?

This is one of those cases where you are using abortion for birth control. You’re more likely to get judged on here for being completely irresponsible than you are by any medical staff involved in your termination.

Im pro abortion but I still think people should be responsible for themselves. It’s not a popular opinion on here so you will get a lot of posters telling you not to worry and it’s not a big deal.

@Sometimeswinning she said they have had unprotected sex several times since 😐

diamondslushiex · 04/08/2025 16:15

Hey, hope you're ok OP. How did your scan go today? Don't be too hard on yourself as what's done is done and you just need to look forward so that the same situation doesn't occur again (if a new pregnancy), I hope you can get everything sorted. The BPAS website has a lot of good information and answers to any questions you may have regardless of which stage you are at with a termination. If you need someone to speak to for whatever reason, feel free to inbox me. No judgement here. Take care of yourself x

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Sunshine776094 · 04/08/2025 19:16

@diamondslushiex Thankyou so much for your kind words. I went in for my scan and unfortunately it’s a new pregnancy but very early on the nurse was lovely and said she’s here to support me whatever decision I make. I can’t believe this is happened again. Am just going to need some time to get my head round this and decide what to do next. No one apart from my partner knows about this and he said he will support me in whatever decision I make. I feel so guilty and helpless wish I had contraception sorted than I wouldn’t have got myself into this situation again. I didn’t know our body’s could ovulate straight after a termantion as I was told it would take a few cycles for my body to reset.

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Tink3rbell30 · 04/08/2025 19:22

Don't worry and they won't judge you at all, they will just give you another lot of abortion treatment.