Not planned

[Notmyluck]

Hi, posting for some moral support please. I know I have been very silly please don't repeat the same things.

I've just found out I am pregnant this morning. I'm absolutely gutted as I don't want to bring a baby into the world without the father involved.

This wasn't planned. Single mum 1 one DC already and have them to consider and my job. It's really not practical.

Feel so disappointed I've put myself in such a silly position. I will research abortions today.

I think you’re right to consider how it would affect the child and life you already have. Good luck with whatever you decide.

It sounds like you've made up your mind, for what it's worth, I think that's the sensible decision.
All the best OP.

I've got a telephone consultation with a nurse next week. Never had an abortion before and I don't really want to regret it either...So I'm hoping I won't change my mind. I guess the issue is I don't know what's round the corner for me. I love my DC and wouldn't want my poor decision making to effect him negativity.

I’m in a slightly similar position the father won’t be involved and i already have 3 children the youngest has only just turned one last month. I definitely don’t think you are being selfish for thinking about how another baby with affect your existing child and home/work life i actually think your being very sensible. Good luck no matter what you decide. ❤️

@Kim0987 thank you. I've always wanted another. I just feel like I don't have a lot of choice as it's very apparent that I'm by myself and I don't have a support network.

I had a consultation with the midwife yesterday. Just waiting for the pills through the post.

I’m sorry to read this OP.

I just wanted to say, in case no one else has, you can have this baby if you want to. From what you’ve said, you’ve always wanted another. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

That said, if you think it’s better all round to have an abortion that is also a sensible choice.

Don’t make your choice based on anything other than you and your DC. Other people don’t matter x

I just thought I would give a positive update. I'm glad I had a termination and I don't have any regrets. I have booked a nice holiday for me & DC next year and I'm looking foward to what the new year will bring. Sending positive thoughts to anybody else struggling ❤️