Lost my job but wanting a baby soon… help!

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Hiii… I wasn’t really sure where to turn regarding this so hoping I can get some good advice on here!

I’m 31 and was recently made redundant from my job. I’ve never been out of work and it’s hit me quite hard. Financially, I’m now at a point where all my hard earned savings have gone and I’m relying on my husband (who earns a lot less than I did) to keep us afloat until I find a job, which in the current climate is taking a lot longer than we anticipated.

Through all of this stress, the desire to have a baby seems to be growing more and more and I’m starting to worry that I might have to delay having a baby due to this unfortunate work situation. Ideally my husband and I would like to have our baby at 32 (so we have up to about 18 months).

Im basically feeling so unsure about whether or not we should put on hold our dream of having a family with the risk of having fertility issues the older I get or if we should go ahead anyway and hope everything will work out and we will manage to get back on track?

Really appreciate any advice people may have <3

Hi,
Sorry to hear you've been made redundant. I like to believe 'things happen for a reason'.

I have two children and had them when I was only really starting out in my career.
I was 29 when I had my first. Then 32 when I had my second.

Now they're 7 and 5 and I'm back on my career journey, older and wiser and seem to have found more confidence and stability after motherhood.

How come you have set 32 as the age for children. My advice would be to try not plan things too precisely. You never know what the journey to motherhood will be like.

My advice would also be to be in a steady job with decent mat leave cover and a job you can return to flexibly such as part time or reduced hours.

Im sure whatever happens you will find a way to make things work.

Thank you for your advice! Yes I keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason… I guess it just can sometimes be hard when you’re in it at the time.

Thats reassuring to hear regarding your view on feeling more confident in your career after having children.

We never really had a set plan when to have children but more recently I’ve felt like if we want more than one child, preferably I’d like to have my first by 32. But I appreciate it’s not something you can always plan!

Your advice on the job is what is going through my mind and so I suppose what you’re saying is to prioritise getting back into work before trying for a baby.

thank you again! xx