39 and accidently pregnant, don't know what to do

[NImum123]

I'm 39 and recently moved countries with DH and DD (3). I've just found out i'm pregnant and should be so happy but I'm filled with anxiety. The move has totally ripped me from my friends and close parenting community and new job has appalling maternity leave package. We bought a house that needs so much work and I just feel totally out of my depth like i'm drowning and can't see how I would be able to be a good parent or be able to cope with the pregnancy.
I also feel terrible about the thought of robbing my DD of a sibling, if I terminate and can't have another child. I have appointment booked to discuss MA but just feel incredibly selfish.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Hi @NImum123, I'm sorry that your pregnancy comes at the same time as a move, that's always a stressful time. At least you would have some time before the baby was born, you could decide what's the most important to fix up in your new house and just concentrate on that. Hopefully some of it is just cosmetic like ugly wallpaper or bad room colors/carpets that need to be removed. At 39, you might want to consider this your last, best chance of having another baby, if you wanted to have a sibling for your daughter. Lots of women do have children after 40, but the risk of miscarriage increases each year you wait. You already have experience with a baby, so at least you know (somewhat) what you're in for, and at least you'll probably only have one child in nappies. If you are only a few weeks along there's no reason to rush a decision, take your time and let the craziness of moving wear off a bit when you can think more clearly. I hope you can make it work if that's what you decide you want, dear.

A house wouldn't deter me at 39. Having a lazy DH who doesn't pull his weight with the house and DC would though.