Pregnant at 45

[ellyrhi]

Hi just found out I'm pregnant at 45 I have three children with my ex 2 girls 22 & 21 and a 7 year old little boy I'm now been with my new partner for 2 years he has no kids I really frightened the thought of haveing another child at my age but then feel guilty as he has none but I can't see my self being able to cope again as I already feel fatigue quite a lot I also brought my other kids up basically on my own with my parents help as my ex didn't help and was abusive my mam is also getting older so don't think I'd get the help I did when I was younger I've got it good now as they help out with my son a lot so I can go to work my heads all over the place at the minute and I also struggle with mental help I'm scared I won't be able to cope with another child

A termination is always an option OP, and sometimes it's the best option available to us at the time x

@ellyrhi Have you told your partner that you are pregnant? This sounds like a decision that you should not have to make all on your own. If your relationship is a good one, he will listen to your thoughts, fears, and feelings, and let you know his as well. And together you can figure out where you go from here. At 45 years old there is a much higher chance of natural miscarriage, so that is a possible outcome as well. If you abort without telling him, it will be much harder to go through the aftermath feeling like you have to keep it bottled up.

Yeah we have spoke and he says he totally understands I have just took the first termination pill and still thinking have I done the right thing but I feel that it's my time to start doing things together going on holiday and stuff if I had another baby that would be the rest of my life tied down

@ellyrhi how are you doing OP?