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Help i need your advise

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MyNattyTealop · 01/06/2025 19:37

He'll Mumsnet,I am 31yr old with 1 kid i raise my daughter with out my husbend support for some reason we were separated after i gave birth to my daughter.after 4 years we decided to have kids and i was happy because i sont want to date any one else.Now i am pregnant with twins.I'm 22wk pregnant now.to the main point i cant raise 3 children on my own so i decided to have an abortion but i am so scared pls i need your advise

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MatriarchCaz · 01/06/2025 22:11

Please consider if you could have babies adopted x

fairgame84 · 02/06/2025 07:46

Have you contacted bpas or anyone for counselling? The abortion cut of date in the uk is 24 weeks so you need to act fast if that is truly what you want. You need to understand what will actually happen as well. I work in nicu and have looked after babies born at 22 weeks, you need to really consider what you will be going through and what you will see when having an abortion at this late stage.

SilverScales · 04/06/2025 03:35

I agree with the other posters here, it sounded like you wanted another child, and if two are too much, maybe you could let one be adopted. There is such a waiting list for babies for those who can't have one of their own but have so much love to give. And @fairgame84 is right, at that stage those babies are fully formed to where they could almost survive outside the womb. You should look at some fetal development pictures so you understand the seriousness of what you are thinking about doing, just so that you don't find out afterward when you might have made a different choice if you'd known. Have you and your husband gotten back together? Is he pushing you into aborting? I hope you can find a way through this that will give you the most peace in your life going forward.

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MyNattyTealop · 08/06/2025 14:03

SilverScales · 04/06/2025 03:35

I agree with the other posters here, it sounded like you wanted another child, and if two are too much, maybe you could let one be adopted. There is such a waiting list for babies for those who can't have one of their own but have so much love to give. And @fairgame84 is right, at that stage those babies are fully formed to where they could almost survive outside the womb. You should look at some fetal development pictures so you understand the seriousness of what you are thinking about doing, just so that you don't find out afterward when you might have made a different choice if you'd known. Have you and your husband gotten back together? Is he pushing you into aborting? I hope you can find a way through this that will give you the most peace in your life going forward.

We are not back together but he don't want the abortion too.also he don't support the babies too.

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MyNattyTealop · 08/06/2025 14:04

Tnx i will consider zt

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SilverScales · 10/06/2025 13:43

Your children's father must provide financial child support if you live in the UK, whether you are together or not. You can take him to court if he is not supporting his children. I think going to a pregnancy center could help you, as they can give you all the information about child support, adoption, what aid might be available to you, all your options. If you let me know what town you live in, I can see what is close to you.

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MyNattyTealop · 10/06/2025 17:26

Tnx but i live in ethiopia that is why the law is poor for this kind of caze.but tnx so much for ur advise and support. God bless u

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