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Confused and scared after first pill

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Scaredxconfused · 27/05/2025 22:35

Hi I am currently very confused and anxious. I am 32 and nearly 6weeks pregnant.
I have no support from family as have isolated myself with depression over the past few years. And I don’t currently work, I receive benefits rent a small apartment with my dog and the ‘father’ doesn’t want anything to do with me and has pressured me to take the first tablet last night. Although I think this could be the right decision, I am very unsure and him pressuring me made it a lot worse. I ended up asking him to leave (which he wouldn’t do initially I had to get upset to a family member and leave myself).
I have had two MAs in the past one in 2016 and was in hospital to be monitored due to a risk of fainting/syncope.
the second was 2020 start of covid I did it at home but passed out which was scary. I don’t have many friends because I’ve isolated myself and other than love and care I don’t have much I can offer a child at this point in my life, but felt so awful after taking the first pill yesterday. My only family is my grandmother who will not help me and says I will be on my own, and best option is to abort like I have before. I have no kids and would like to have them in future but this is obviously a bad situation.. the ‘father’ has also threatened me and I feel guilty because I told him it was a safe time of the month and it wasn’t. I was pushing to not use protection as I thought it would make us feel closer as he often with holds affection or makes me feel bad - so stupid I know - and part of me thinks did I subconsciously want to become pregnant? Which makes the guilt 100x worse. He already has a child and has always told me he doesn’t want more kids. We were using condoms before and I had offered to go on the pill but never did it. I feel like such a let down to everyone and myself, I guess I am just looking for advice or support. I have considered trying to see if the pregnancy could continue but maybe it’s my hormones and anxiety causing further confusion and probably too late as I have taken the first tablet. I have a day to decide if I take the next lot.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 27/05/2025 22:57

Sorry you are having such a tough time OP, can you phone the abortion clinic tomorrow? They will explain why you need to take the second tablet, but they may be able to talk things through with you again also. You’ve made the right choice OP, just make sure you ditch this guy if you haven’t already

Anxious24 · 27/05/2025 23:14

The first pill doesn’t always work so I would not take the 2nd lot and hope it’ll be ok. If the pregnancy continues there isn’t a risk from the 1st pill. It may unfortunately have stopped the pregnancy but it doesn’t always. If it has stopped the pregnancy you will start bleeding. Or get a scan in a few days and if pregnancy stopped then can have 2nd pills and you could ask to have treatment in hospital. And if pregnancy ongoing book with midwife

Scaredxconfused · 28/05/2025 03:04

Thanks I just started bleeding about an hour ago and just saw some clots so guess the process has started. I’m somewhat relieved that the choice has been made and so want to get it done now, but also sad for what might have been and that this has happened. hormones not helping I guess.

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