pregnancy after abortion

[louise2019x]

myself and my boyfriend got pregnant in summer of 2023 we were only together 6 months so decided to terminate the pregnancy fast forward two years later and i’m now pregnant again. i wanted to keep the last pregnancy but we was against it and was the deciding factor in the pregnancy being terminated, im absolutely terrified to tell him again incase he says he wants another abortion, i’m not going to do it either way but how do i tell him? i think i’ve a lot of it’s and trauma from how it went last time. i was thinking of letting him know and then staying at a friends for a couple of days while it comes to terms with it? let me know what you think

Hi Louise, I can't imagine how it must feel, having this secret. You must feel so sick and scared of how your partner will take the news. How long have the two of you been together? How old are you? I'm so sorry you felt pushed into aborting a wanted pregnancy, but I'm glad you feel stronger now and that you refuse to have another unwanted abortion. Do you have family who can help you if he doesn't want to stay together?

I would be firm and honest with him. "I need to tell you that I'm pregnant. Last time I aborted because that's what you wanted. But I didn't want to do it then, and I know I can't have another abortion. I want to be a mother whether you are staying with me or not." If he leaves, you know that he wasn't going to love you through all the ups and downs of life, or just that he had different priorities. You deserve someone who will love you no matter what. I think you should stay so the two of you can talk about this. If he wants "space" to think about it, he can go stay with a friend. You haven't done anything wrong. Act with strength and purpose. I hope that he will truly listen to you, and evaluate his relationship with you and his priorities. Hope to hear back from you, I'll be thinking of you.