Had an abortion last July

[LoveYouHoneybear]

And I still think about it every day. I think about what could’ve been and even though I know I made the right decision for my family at the time, I can’t help but feel regret that I have lost my last chance to have another child. When I had the abortion, my daughters were 18 months and 3 years old so it felt like way too much to add another… but I also was quite excited. I even joined a February 2025 group here on MN. My husband completely shut down and though we spoke about potentially having a third, when it became a reality he was not on board. I had the abortion for the sake of my current family unit, but how am I supposed to get over this? I just wish it never happened.

Maybe try again? I am struggling and thinking that might help. But I’m 40 so unlikely to happen @LoveYouHoneybear

Thanks for responding. Unfortunately that isn’t an option as my husband is not on board with a 3rd baby anymore.

I’m so sorry you’re struggling with the termination. There isn’t enough honest information about the mental effects of that decision and how hard it can be. It’s still such a taboo subject so people are scared to be open about how it’s impacted them. I can only speak from experience, but it will get easier over time. I don’t know anyone who made the decision to terminate lightly and there is no right or wrong here. Don’t be hard on yourself - your decision and reasons for that are valid and personal. Even if it was the right thing for your circumstances, it can still be difficult to process so give yourself time to grieve and tell your husband how you feel so he can support you.

@Shopaholic107Thank you so much for this. It really helps to hear these kind words. Hopefully I will feel better in time. I am going to therapy and finding that helpful too. Thank you x