Hi everyone, I’ve never posted before but I feel I have to because I am in a dilemma at the moment. I’m 28, 29 in October and I’m have 4 children 6 year old boy (2018), 4 year old boy (2020), 18 month old girl (2023) and almost 3month old girl (dec 2024). I got my first period after childbirth January 22nd. I have always wanted 4 children and I have already 2 boys who are two years apart and my two girls who are 16 months apart and they were all planned. Me and my husband are happy with our family of 6 and we didn’t want anymore children but while trying to discuss and think of the best option to take that is a more long term contraceptive we used condoms and I had the pill after my last baby was born. But now I have just found out I’m pregnant again after my period didn’t come and I was having odd symptoms that I recognized from previous pregnancies. My husband is very kind towards me but he is adamant that we should do a termination because he doesn’t think we will cope and we did agree to be done at 4 so we can put pregnancies behind us and focus on seeing our kids grow and start to travel more with them and also start to have more time together as a couple also. I feel so much guilt and worry at the moment. I am worried about how we would cope with 5 because 4 is handful so imagine an extra child on top especially where I already have a 2 month old and a soon to be 2 year old. I’m so worried about everything and even worried about all the reactions and looks and the annoying comments, I already have my girls in a big double pram so I’m feeling so so anxious about how people would react at my kids school also when doing school run. I love my kids so much ❤️ and when I look at their sweet little faces I can’t help but feel a love for this little one in my tummy also but my husband is right when he mentions the affect this will have on our mental and physical health having a 5 child. I’m also really scared if my body can even cope because as I said, my last child was just born two months ago and she was conceived 7 months after my 18 month old was born. I’m really worried about what to do. Terminate or keep? If anyone has been or is in a similar situation please can u give some advice or share your stories or some positive words please x
thanks in advance and sorry for long post