Advice needed!

[sraerae]

So just recently discovered that I’m pregnant 7 months postpartum. Completely unexpected as protection was used and the morning after pill was taken. So it is a massive shock. Currently on maternity leave and this would be my third baby. I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to have this baby because me and my partner wanted more anyway but it’s just bad timing. But then I think there wasn’t much more I could have done to prevent it and it happened anyway. So it’s almost like a blessing.

I’d have a 4 year old and a 1 year old once the baby is here. I struggle anyway with money at the minute but that’s mainly due to being on maternity leave and my partner is currently looking for work. I’d have to get a new car as my current one only has 5 seats. I had a termination about 8 years ago and it affected me emotionally it was very traumatic and I always said I would never put myself through that again. I’m not looking for answers just advice from anyone who has a similar age gap or has had the same experience

Hi sraerae, I'm sorry that you had to experience such a shock - to have a baby less than a year old and to find out you're pregnant again had to have been unbelievable, especially with all the precautions you took. But I agree, it almost feels as if it was meant to be! If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that life never EVER goes the way we planned it, at least not most of the time. But also, sometimes the things we didn't plan end up being some of the best things. It sounds like you're open to another child, and it could be beneficial to have them close together so that you'll already have all the things like high chair, toys, swing, etc. Then you and your partner could discuss if three is enough, and if he might be willing to get the snip if you feel your family is complete. I have not personally had an abortion but I've seen friends go through absolute emotional trauma after having one, so I totally understand you not wanting to have to go through that again. I hope your partner is open to the idea of having another baby at this time, and that he gets a good job. It's good that you are listening to your heart and being honest with yourself. Really hoping that things work out for you, sending hugs.