I’m having a termination and I need advice

[Lozzy199707]

So I recently found out that I’m pregnant and I’ve decided I’m having a termination. I have already booked my termination and I’ve got a date for it but when I go I’m gonna be roughly about 12 weeks pregnant.

so my question is, what is everybody’s experience from having an termination at 12 weeks?
I’m worried they’re gonna try and make me have a surgical abortion because of how far gone I am,
any advice will much appreciated, thanks

Hi @Lozzy199707 I’m potentially in a similar situation. I want the baby but my partner does not and we’re looking at terminating the pregnancy. Can I ask how far along you were when you started the process? I’m 4 weeks but I can’t get an appointment to see anyone for another 2 weeks. Just wondering how long the whole thing takes.

What did you both decide to do?

@Clangershome I managed to get a phone call with MSI and when she asked why I wanted to terminate, the question was something along the lines of “what medical or emotional reason do you have for terminating the pregnancy” I had a complete meltdown. Because I didn’t want to terminate, he did and when I said it out loud it hit me like a train. She offered me a counselling session before I committed to the termination and I talked it through with my partner. We both realised that if I terminated the pregnancy I would resent him and wouldn’t forgive myself either. I couldn’t do it. I’m now 9weeks + 5 days and we’re keeping the baby ☺️

It’s going to be really tough on us financially and I think it was pure panic and shock that made my partner say that he didn’t want to keep it. We had both agreed to start trying for a baby (granted this was with some pushing from me), expecting it to take 6 months to a year, maybe giving us a year and a half to save, but we were really fortunate and it happened first time 😳

It really helped ease our worries by talking to really close friends, not our family because they would have a one sided view. But we knew our close friends would see things from both sides and be supportive without being judgemental. He’s much more excited about it now and we’re saving as much as we can. We’re both working two jobs to support my maternity pay.

This is both yours and your partner’s choice and I think it’s important to consider his and your feelings. But remember, you have to physically go through the termination. Talk to friends who will give unbiased and neutral advice, look at a budget calculator, talk it through together, every night if you have to. Whatever happens, you will make the right decision for you. Good luck xx