Student and bf wants me to get 2nd abort

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Hey!

I am in dire need of advice. I am a 25 year old mature student in my second year of uni. Me and my long term boyfriend have moved to an apartment in a bigger city and have been living together for two years now.

I have fallen pregnant again. We got pregnant before and I had an abortion and I regretted that decision so much that I fell into a hole of depression and anxiety and I hardly left the house. He got frustrated with me for being sad and couldn’t understand why I was moping around for a long time he wasn’t supportive at all. Now we’ve finally got back to a place where everything is great this has happened and ofc he wants another abortion which I did when I first found out because it isn’t the right time but the more I think about the more I fear that I just can’t go through with it although the thought of being pregnant terrifies me I’ve always dreamed of being a mum. He keeps reminding me how stupid it would be and it’s not the right time. He’s trying to be nice about it but he’s sayijg he can’t leave me so he guesses he will have to stay with me whilst. I understand his frustrations but I’ve been begging him to wear condoms and he stopped because he doesn’t like the feeling of them, it’s not starting to make me feel like he thinks abortions are birth control. Part of me wishes he would leave me, as I’m trying to be optimistic about this pregnancy as possible to avoid myself spiralling again. My issue is am I being completely selfish having a child that I may struggle to afford and that the dad doesn’t really want?? I’m so torn I really want this to work but I also know being a student doesn’t help financially when trying to live on your own. Any advice is welcome x

(I am aware it was bad to get pregnant again but I’ve not had the best reactions with certain birth controls so I have been trying to stick to cycle tracking and protection)

Sorry I've no advice other than to look at other protection. I came off the pill to try and regulate my hormones while waiting on a Gynecology appointment and fell pregnant tracking my cycle. It's not reliable and would never want to go through another abortion.

I'd tell your boyfriend I'm not having sex if he doesn't wear a condom because he clearly does think abortion is a contraceptive judging by his lack of empathy towards you.

For your own wellbeing too considering you struggle after the first termination ❤️

Hi hun

I hope you are okay. I'm so sorry you're going through this and I would like to say congratulations on your pregnancy .

I had a termination because the baby's dad more or less forced me into getting one . I regret it deeply and it's been 9 months ! You are not been selfish by wanting to keep this baby . You have to follow your heart . I wished I followed mine and kept the baby and told the dad to get lost and leave us alone then . But I panicked .

He sounds like a right arsehole if I'm honest . Not using condoms and just keeps demanding abortions. He has no idea what we go through mentally physically emotionally and spiritually.

You do what ever you want to do and don't listen to anyone else. You are 25 young but not a baby and are a smart capable women . If this realtionshios ends and he moves on in a few years and has kids with someone else can you live with the trauma of 2 abortions this boy mad you have ?

if you don't want to keep the baby becoase of your reasons that's diffrent but do not let someone else sway your decision . I made that mistake once and I will never make that mistake again even if I have to raise a baby alone so be it.

sending you so much love and hugs my love I hope you will be okay I know you will xxx