How long to heal, how to heal

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I am due to have a MA in a few days. The timing for another baby is very bad, we are moving overseas imminently, I’ve not been in the best state mentally/physically for a long time, and we have a lot of unknowns in the future.

I am already feeling so sad, guilty, ashamed, alone, ungrateful and just so low.

i know logically it is the right thing to do as it would be a huge stress and struggle trying to bring a baby into a world of unknowns.
But I so sad about it and I would love a second child, just the timing is so difficult it doesn’t seem feasible or fair on them.

Has anyone been through similar, how did you heal? How long did it take? What helped? Do these feelings and the guilt and sadness ever end?

Before you go ahead i would really access some counselling to explore your feelings and help you decide- it sounds like you are already feeling wobbly and may struggle after. I know its bad timing practically but also listen to your emotional side. as someone who has been through it the thing i wish most is that i had some counselling beforehand x

Thank you, I’m seeing a therapist and have discussed but it’s not really helping me become any clearer. She also agreed it was an extremely hard decision. I feel like my heart wants to continue and my logical head says its very bad timing.

Im not trying to make things more complicated but is the practical completely infeaisable? i know i gave more attention to the practical and wish had listened to my heart more as sometimes we can make things work. i think so often its presented as a black or white decision but as you are finding it can sometimes be more of a grey area. wishing you all the best x

If the reasons are only circumstantial, like the move abroad and such, don't do it. It really isn't worth it. Don't take a permanent solution for a temporary problem.
Don't take advice by specialists because they are all pro-abortion and don't care about women.