PMDD, pregnancy, post birth and passing it on

[jessamandajane]

I’ve been struggling with PMDD for a few years I was basically pre-menopausal two weeks of the month with insomnia, night sweats even bleeding gums and IBS with awful anxiety . I’ve been taking progesterone for a few months and other than bleeding every couple of weeks which is a pain the other symptoms have resolved. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone let alone a daughter but it’s hereditary and I’m really worried about having a daughter though I would like to try and get pregnant this year. The options are either adopt, try for a boy and have a termination if not but unsure how I would feel about that or whether I would spend my daughters whole life anxious that she would suffer the same as me and if she did horrendous guilt as it’s been for me really sucked any joy out of being a woman.

I think its not reasonable to assume a girl would suffer with PMDD and if you expect a girl you would abort based on this alone.

Imagine your mum aborted you because she suffered with PMDD? Its not a nice concept to fathom but this is the reality of what you are considering.

You are stronger than this OP. If it would bother you this much, then perhaps try IVF where you can pick the gender or just choose not to have a child altogether if you are considering aborting an otherwise healthy pregnancy based on gender alone. You don't know if your daughter will be diagnosed with PMDD because you have been pre-disposed to it and although it sounds difficult to cope with it seems you have a good enough quality of life to want to bring a child into it so why deny your own child this opportunity?

Please seek some therapy before you decide what you would like to do, I do think this will greatly help you see yourself for the wonderful person that you are and that you are not defined by PMDD. You have a whole story away from that small chapter, believe in yourself and your capabilities so you can live to see the beauty in your world 💐