Partner wants to see the abortion scan

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Hi I’ve decided to go ahead with a termination ( for many reasons but don’t want to go into it ) anyway I have a feeling I may need to go for a scan first as I’ve been having sharp pains on one side etc so assuming they will rule out ectopic? If I do my partner wants to come with me and actually see the scan but I don’t think I do 😣 Im also worried as this will make him upset and change his mind about termination. I know he would love another baby but given our circumstances it’s just not the right thing for us /me . Would he even be allowed in the room with me ? How would you deal with this ? He’s a very emotional person who goes with his heart and not head so this is mainly my decision to terminate but I don’t want the extra quilt on top of my own guilt right now . Thanks

When I had my appointment they didn’t allow my partner in until after the scan and first part of the consultation - he was only allowed in once they had asked safety questions and done the scan, because I asked for him to be in to hear the instructions/aftercare so he knew as well. I don’t think they would have let him in before then, although you can ask. They turned the screen away so I suppose he could sit behind the scan person and see while you wouldn’t see. Alternatively you can request to have the pictures, so perhaps if you took an envelope and asked them to put them in there for you to give him?