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Advice and opinions please.

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Bethany0911 · 27/12/2024 11:26

So I have just found out I am pregnant. We already have 6 children. 3 older ones aged 15 - 10 and 3 little ones aged 2 and 10 months (twins) .. we always said after the twins that is it definitely no more. We were always careful so this is a shock. I have arranged a medical abortion, I have to pick the tablets up in 4 days time. But I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. My partner says it's completely my decision but I know he would like to continue with it. Our house is bursting at the seams as it is, we are only in a 3 bed and no chance of moving anytime soon it's just completely unaffordable for us. Yes we are on council lists but they've said we need a 5 bed at the least and they only have four 5 beds which are all occupied so we are looking at a 10 year wait 🙄 going private again is out of the question for such a large house we just can't afford the fees and buying is just a pipe dream. As it stands we have the toddler and the twins in our bedroom, that's our bed, a toddler bed and a cot. The thought of adding a moses basket then a second cot to that just seems like madness. We have 1 boy who has a room and then the 2 older girls who share. We have a 7 seater car that already doesn't fit the whole family in for travelling for holidays so we have to have a smaller second car aswell. I also don't think it would be fair on the ones we already have to bring another baby in... but then I don't know I look at the tiny ones and just think ... how can I go ahead with an abortion.. but maybe I'm being selfish. I need advice and opinions from people who aren't closely involved...hense why I'm here. I thought I'd be definite on the abortion but I aren't. And I'm scared I'm going to make the complete wrong decision either way and regret it 😟

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Saskia2023 · 27/12/2024 20:35

Really sorry you are in this situation as its such a hard decision to make. termination is always presented as such as black or white choice but in reality as you are finding its such a grey area with heart and head conflicting. i would access some counselling first before taking the pills- your provider should have someone you can speak to. if not places like Stillwater or ARCH are both charities that can provide someone for you to explore options with. sometimes there is no right/wrong or certain decision but almost what has to be priortised. even if you take the pills, by speaking to someone else beforehand will help your process the decision. please dont rush into taking them before talking to someone- it can feel sometimes easy to rush into taking them to make the decision but once you do theres no going back. by talking to a counsellor it will enable you to explore your feelings. sending you love- its such a tough situation to be in x

caramelcappucino · 28/12/2024 22:42

If you aren’t sure and have an incline that you may regret it, I wouldn't do it. 💐

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