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Unexpected pregnancy unsure what to do

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Anz38 · 27/12/2024 00:52

looking for some advice please! I’m 38 & have 3 beautiful kids, ages 18,9 & 4 (big age gaps) so I met my current partner nearly 6 years ago & I made it clear I didn’t want anymore kids I already had a boy & a girl.

anyway after 2 years, we ended up having our little boy who is now 4! And I wouldn’t change him for
the world! That was while I decided to take a break from the injection and then we both decided to try for a baby it took a year to conceive.

now 4 years later I have just very very unexpectedly found out I’m pregnant whilst on the pill injection! In between this one and my last I had missed it by literally 3 weeks and fell pregnant!! So when I found out I was already 8 weeks!

I had to go for a scan to check how far as I don’t have periods to go off with me being on the injection.

so to cut a long story short I really don’t want to keep the baby I want to have an abortion which I never thought I’d say but I also never in a million years thought I would fall pregnant that fast my own stupid fault missing the injection by 3 weeks I presumed as it took a year last time 3 weeks wasn’t a big deal! How wrong I was.

so my partner has already told his parents as he is happy about the situation and couldn’t keep his mouth shut! I also told my parents as I felt I should with already being 8 weeks. I have told my partner I am so unsure but definitely swaying more to an abortion as non of it seems right to have another baby! I’m nearly 39, have a good career with my own business which I do from home, already have 3 children and we don’t have the extra space either for another child.

now he and his mum are even saying u can’t get rid of the baby no way etc! Then he said if u do that’s the end of us! It’s my child and u wanna murder it!!

making me feel terrible but also makes me think well it’s my choice! His mum said it’s his choice too but he 100% won’t agree with me having an abortion!

I feel so sad & trapped as it’s supposed to be a happy occasion like the others but this time I feel so different I just want an abortion but it’s going to cause so much trouble and if I don’t I feel unhappy help!!

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Saskia2023 · 28/12/2024 13:50

really sorry you are in this situation. i would access some counselling to help you explore what you want given the situation and also working through other people's expectation etc. must be hard now other people know. place like bpas provide counselling or chairites like Arch or Stillwater. wishing you all the best its a difficult decision to make when juggling different issues x

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