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Unplanned pregnancy & partner wants an abortion

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MauveBee · 14/11/2024 19:25

Bit of background - me and my partner have been together for years and have never really discussed children apart from we would want them one day. I’ve now found myself unexpectedly pregnant and thought partner might consider us continuing the pregnancy. He’s told me he wants me to have an abortion as we still have things we want to do and see etc.
I get this & agree but I feel so torn. I’m so angry with him for not considering how I feel and maybe what I want. He’s told me tonight that he might never want children so that’s making this decision even more difficult.

Im booked in next week for my appointment to have an abortion and I just feel so torn and conflicted. I feel this may be my only chance to be a mother. I’m in my early 30s so do I continue this pregnancy and my partner resent me and our lives or do I have an abortion and resent my partner?
He Said maybe I should find someone who wants to have children with me and do it together so shall I have this abortion and leave? Am I too old to leave and find someone new? I don’t want children mid/late 30s (especially my first).

So many thoughts and feelings going around in my head and my partner has made me so angry.
He’s pushing 40 so I thought he might consider this baby.
Please no hate or abusive comments because I’m finding this hard enough as it is.

Thanks x

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Redlorryyellowcar · 14/11/2024 20:47

It sounds like you really want this baby OP and early 30s is not a crazy age to have a baby. I think if you terminated he would breadcrumb you along further with this imaginary carrot.

you could keep the baby and split from him and one day find another manx

keep the baby and possibly not have another relationship for a long time

keep the baby and your partner comes around?

terminate the baby and possibly resent your partner and break up one day anyway?

My advice is to calls Choices charity for 1.5 hours free unbiased counselling with a specialist.

good luck! Xxx

redalex261 · 14/11/2024 23:06

Hi OP, this is a hard one and no right answer. You need to talk things through with an impartial counsellor to assist you in reaching the best decision for you. Don't let anyone (partner, mum, friend) guilt you into a decision - it has to be yours.

Good luck and best wishes x.

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