Hi,
I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice…
I’m a single mum to a child that will soon be 7. I co-parent well and my child sees their dad regularly. Their dad also pays CM. The routine is very set in stone and works really well.
I have recently found myself pregnant with an ex… I hadn’t spoken to him for about 4 months or more or even seen him. But somehow we ended up at the same place at the same time. We got coffee a few times and then we ended up going for dinner and then one thing led to another and now I’m pregnant.
I work part time, I’m a part time student, my life isn’t set and I do have my struggles at the moment. For me my life feels A MESS. I have a lot of freedom because of my co-parent situation and I’m just worried if I keep this pregnancy I’m going to feel like a prisoner…
My co-parent situation with this man wouldn’t be anything like the one I already have…
Option A is to abort and act like nothing happened. Just deal with the mental side of it.
Option B is to keep the baby, drop part of my studies (it’s a 2 year course but one part of the course only takes a year and the other a second year) and only do the first year which is the most important, then go on mat leave for 9 months… Then go back to work as the child would qualify for 15 free hours and then apply for uni the following September and do uni with a 8 year old and almost 2 year old.
I know that the support from uni is amazing with children and everything to do with childcare is paid for and the grants are really good.
But is it going to be too hard having one good situation for one child and a less supportive situation for the other.
I’m finding it hard because I have fertility issues. I’m in my 30’s and I would like to complete my kids. But I’m also scared of ruining my life and my kids lives.
Honestly I feel like everything happens when life feels its most rough!!