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Abortion guilt

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GreenFrogPinkFrog · 20/10/2024 21:14

I found out yesterday that I'm pregnant. I already have a 3 year old and 1 year old, I took the morning after pill but it did not work. I am still in total shock.

I have booked a consultation with a termination clinic tomorrow. I know it is the right thing to do. I have only recently moved into a 2 bed house after us all sharing one room for a long time. There is absolutely no chance of me being able to get a 3 bed. I can't afford another child, things are really tight as it is. My 3 year old is undergoing an autism assessment at the moment and is really really challenging, I already feel like I'm not giving my toddler enough attention at all. There's a long list of reasons why this just is not a good idea. And selfishly I don't think I'd cope mentally, I've only just started having some independence and getting myself back again and learning who I am, I've lost a lot of weight and I'm really enjoying going to the gym etc.

But I just feel so bloody guilty. I know it's my body and my choice and I am so pro-terminations for all women so why do I feel like I shouldn't be ending a life? And I know it's just cells but I look at my lovely children and think they were cells once too and they're both lovely kids now and I don't know how I'm ever going to forgive myself for doing this.

I know it's probably just hormones talking and I'm still in shock as I only found at yesterday. All day today I've just been thinking I want this over and done with and to forget it ever happened but this evening I am just overcome with guilt.

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Blissfulignorance · 21/10/2024 16:51

I'm sorry you're going through this.
I had a termination earlier this year too.
I have 6 and a 3 year old. It was an utter shock to us. I'm in the middle of a degree and have no room left in our small 2 bed house.
I am pro choice but never thought I need to make that choice.
I understand the feeling of guilt.
However months down the line I'm sure it was the right choice for us. The cost of bringing another child into the family now would have negatively impacted our whole lives. It just wasn't meant to be.
Be kind to yourself.
Life happens, you'll be ok.
💐

GreenFrogPinkFrog · 24/10/2024 11:28

Blissfulignorance · 21/10/2024 16:51

I'm sorry you're going through this.
I had a termination earlier this year too.
I have 6 and a 3 year old. It was an utter shock to us. I'm in the middle of a degree and have no room left in our small 2 bed house.
I am pro choice but never thought I need to make that choice.
I understand the feeling of guilt.
However months down the line I'm sure it was the right choice for us. The cost of bringing another child into the family now would have negatively impacted our whole lives. It just wasn't meant to be.
Be kind to yourself.
Life happens, you'll be ok.
💐

Thank you for your lovely message. I ended up having a miscarriage the day before the termination tablets arrived so the decision was made for me which is a huge relief xx

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