Termination 9 week+

[Abee89]

Hi all,

I found out I was pregnant at 8 weeks and 3 days. I have an 8 month old and have been struggling with ppa and ppd I was slowly starting to come out of it then found out I was pregnant! As soon as I found out I made an appointment for a termination thinking I’d only be about 5 weeks and there’d be no heart beat. Obviously I was a lot further along and that threw me. I’ve been going back and forth about what to do and i Just can’t see going through a pregnancy and having another child with my current state of mental health. But im
so worried the guilt will also deteriorate my mental health. I feel so stuck! Has anyone had a medical termination at 9 weeks 4 days? Will I feel it come out? I don’t think I could cope with that. Sorry if this offends anyone I know there are people out there desperate for a child

Hi hun.

Are you okay ? I had one at 7 weeks and I felt it come out. You have to do what's right for you but please try make the decision with your heart and not your head 🩵

Hi Abee, oh goodness what a shock for you. It's so hard to make huge decisions when the surprise hasn't worn off and it's tough to imagine your life not only now, but years down the road. It's time to ask the big questions - have you wanted to have a sibling for your child? Do you have the finances/resources to support another child? You mentioned you feel like abortion might be extremely emotionally damaging to you, and that's not something to ignore because many women are traumatized by undergoing termination. It's good you're being honest with yourself. At least this time you have some idea of what it actually involves to care for a baby, it's not like the first time where you are wondering if you are up to the task, and you probably have most of the supplies you'd need. Sometimes we are stronger than we think we are. If you haven't already talked to your doctor about the post partum depression, there may be meds you haven't tried that can help as well. Some are safe to use during pregnancy. Hope you are doing as well as you can be under the circumstances.

I didn’t have my abortion in the end but I got to the day before surgical. I found out I was 10 weeks 1 day at the first clinic appt and someone told me it was a blessing in a way as a surgical abortion at around the 10 week mark is less traumatic than medical as you don’t need to possibly see as much.

So if you are certain you want to go ahead (I really would try to wait until you are sure), then see if you can get surgical under GA

You are blessed and I'm so happy for you 💗🩵