17 and pregnant with #2 with a 11 month old

[teenmum17]

Im looking for some advice, i’m 17 with an 11 month old and recently found out im around 5 weeks with baby #2. I’m still living at home with my parents and there is no way i can have a second baby there. I think i would be able to move out if i tried but i dont know if i can keep this baby. I’m worried about getting an abortion as i wanted babies close in age and i don’t want to regret my choice im already feeling guilty for even thinking about getting an abortion when i look at my LO and feel so much love i know id love the second so much. Bf doesn’t want baby at all and said he doesn’t think he’d stay with me if i chose to keep the baby as he’s not ready for another baby either. I don’t want to get an abortion but i don’t want to keep the baby i just wish it didn’t come to this. I don’t want any hate or telling me i should’ve been more careful as i can only go on certain contraception due to medical conditions. I can’t eat or focus on anything due to how much stress i feel.

Hi lovely, I don't want you to feel alone. It's your decision alone to make. It sounds like you need coinciling to help your decision. If you contact bpas or simular (check the NHS website), they can offer counciling.

Hey, I was in your position 10 years ago (first born was 9m). I chose to have a termination and for a while after it really consumed me and I was depressed. But now, when I look back after all these years, I know I made the right and best possible decision I could have. It all makes sense. It's so incredibly difficult to make the decision at the time, but you're so young and you mustn't be hard on yourself. Have you made a list of pros and cons? I had counselling before my procedure and personally I didn't find it helped, but that was just me and your experience may be different because everybody's is. Don't let that put you off seeking some counselling because you should attain all of the support you can before you make your final decision. If you like, you're more than welcome to inbox me and I can tell you more about my personal experience if you want to hear it. All the best x