this is a long one.
3 years ago I miscarried at 22 weeks and it was very traumatic for myself and my family. This was a planned pregnancy and we were all excited.
3 years later, we still struggle with the loss and my son (now 7) still asks question and struggles to understand what happens and why.
My partner and I came to terms with being a family of 3.
I found out I am pregnant over a week ago, I will be around 7/8 weeks.
I am uncertain of what to do, This Pregnancy was unplanned. I must have got my fertility dates wrong.
since finding out I am not excited and am struggling to come to terms with being pregnant again and having another child.
in the just over 3 years so much has changed,
My 7 y/o, money, work (parter now works away mon-Fri), lifestyle and the dread of miscarrying. We also do not have family support as both mine and partners parents have passed away.
I'm worrying more how the age gap will affect both children (my son will be 8 on due date) but mainly my son and how / if his life will change or affect with a new born.
I have been to the health clinic and spoken about abortion options and read online of other women's experience and it just brings back the miscarriage. I can’t imagine going through that again but it being my choice.
However I feel if it wasn’t for that I would be more likely to have a termination.
my partner is very supportive and we are both very undecided on what to do.