My husband and I have two wonderful, healthy and happy children aged 7.5 and 4. I thought I was moving on from the baby phase. However, I keep going back and forth about whether we should try for a third child. Please help!
Reasons to go for it are that I love the idea of a big family, all the fun, noise and excitement. I come from a big family and have always been close to my siblings, even with larger age gaps between some. We are very fortunate that money is not a worry - we can pay for childcare when needed and we have a big enough house, car etc. I always wanted a big family and worry that I may regret it if we don’t try for one.
Reasons not to have a baby are principally my age as I am 40, the age gap between the children and my eldest saying he doesn’t really want another sibling (although I’m not sure if this might change and he may appreciate another sibling when he’s older). For context, we have been dithering about this decision for years, but never committed to the idea for various reasons (busy life, jobs, house move etc). I had an unplanned miscarriage recently and was surprised how sad I felt about losing the baby. I think I probably do want another baby, but worry that I simply have left it too late now.