Sleepless night over pregnancy scare

[Gentlewithme]

Last night my DP and I had unprotected sex (withdrawal 'method' - obviously not a form of protection) and I barely slept at all worrying about a potential pregnancy. I track my cycle and I'm around ovulation right now.

I've tried various contraception over the last few years and have found that most have severely impacted my poor mental health. We use condoms but last night got carried away and didn't.

I feel so rotten. We have one DS (nearly 4). We've just moved into a house that is perfect size for the 3 of us and are finally in a pretty ok financial situation. We have wrestled with the idea of more children for years and have landed on, no, one and done.

Having said this, the idea of getting an abortion really frightens me and I think the grief could tip me over the edge.

I'm not asking for advice, I just want to air this out. Any kind words, any experience from those who have gone through similar feelings would be really welcome.

Anyone?

Hello Gentle, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this unsure situation. While there is a chance you conceived, it's definitely a small chance if your partner used the withdrawal method. Your ovulating does increase the chance, but hopefully there were not enough sperm present to cause pregnancy. If you did become pregnant, you're going to have to decide what to do. I had a similar scare where my period was late and I knew we had taken a chance. In my case it was just a late period, I remember going to the bathroom in the cinema during the second "Lord of the Rings" movie and my period had finally started and I was crying with relief. But we had decided that if it turned out I was pregnant, we would go ahead and have another baby, and make the best of it. Eventually my husband got a vasectomy so we didn't have any more uncertainties. Maybe it's time to have that talk with your partner, if you are both sure that your family is big enough. I don't think home pregnancy tests can tell you anything until 10-14 days after ovulation, so you'll have a little time to think about what you'll do if it turns out you did conceive. I think most parents of one child go back and forth over giving them a sibling and your child is a good age to be a big brother, so it's a hard choice. Hope to hear an update from you when you have more information, I'll be thinking about you.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response @NeonCarrot

I've weirdly been able to put it to the back of my mind the last couple of days. DP was very understanding when I chatted about it with him
He immediately started talking about a vasectomy as he recognises it shouldn't all be left down to me. You're right, there's a good chance it will be fine. I'll let you know x