Pregnant after C-Section

[eliselaur]

Hi all! Yesterday I discovered I was pregnant. I have a 2 & a half year old and a 4 month old, this baby would be due a week after he turns one. This baby was not planned at all, in fact I’ve done nothing but hysterically cry since finding out. My last birth was an emergency c-section that didn’t heal so well, so I have some concerns around carrying so soon (the possibility of the scar opening etc). I also know it would be a struggle financially, but I also know it would be mentally too. However, I don’t know whether or not I could have an abortion. It seems like the right thing to do in the situation, but I do believe I’m going to carry a lot of regret. Regret I don’t think I will ever be able to get rid of and I don’t know if I will be able to deal with it. Seeing baby’s the same age, or thinking about what my baby would have been like. I also know for a fact if the clinic required me to have a scan I would not be able to take those pills. I know that no one can tell me what to do, but I was hoping for a bit of support or guidance around the issue.

its horrible when head and heart cant allign.if you did have a scan you dont see the picture. i would access some counselling to help you process your decision and decide which you could cope more with- the practical stress of another baby or the emotional stress of the termination. there are bpas or local charities it is positive that you are reaching out and thinking through the emotional impact- when i was deciding i didnt talk to anyone nor did i think about the emotional side and that caught up with me after. but its horrible when you have an unexpected prengancy and its not the right time. i know i was wishing it would all go away and so i wouldnt have to make a difficult decision. the sterotype is young women but indeed there is a growing number of women who aleady have children who face your dilema. do reach out if you need to many of us have been where you have been x

I have asked on many forums & this is by far the most helpful reply I have had, so thank you. I have contacted bpas and requested a counsellor contact me before I go any further. The feeling of wishing it would just go away is the only way I can sum up my thoughts right now, it’s just a case of weighing up which option I will regret more and that is ultimately up to me to decide. Thank you🤍