2 kids and unplanned pregnancy

[ThatPithyJadeOrca]

Last week I found out that I am unexpectedly pregnant, at 3 weeks so very early days, but ever since I have been blowing hot and cold over what I should do.
I have 2 kids already, 6 and 2, and although I love the thought of another, wondering whether adding another to the family is going to be the detriment of the other two.
we live in a modest 3 bed house - recently extended so loads of living space but bedroom wise my existing 2 will need to share a bedroom and the baby will go in the small room.
My other thought, and I know it’s not all about money but this is weighing on my mind, is if we can afford to give the 3 kids a decent life - we both earn c80k each so v comfortable with our 2 kids. Wonder whether 3 kids will tip us over the edge. Help! Anyone else been in this situation and what did you / would you do?

you don’t once mention your partner and the baby’s father?

I am very lucky that DH is very supportive either way this goes - he has a preference to keep but understands if I think it’s too much. My issue is that I’m confused as I keep flitting between romanticising and catastrophizing

I was in your position in June and the catastrophic thinking won. My advice, don’t rush into a decision. You are very early on and have plenty of time to think about it all objectively without letting panic take over.

If you choose to go ahead with the pregnancy, you will make it work, because there is no other option once baby arrives. If you choose to terminate, you will make it work because there is no other option once it’s done.

I don’t think it’s sensible for people to respond with what they think you should and shouldn’t do in terms of the actual choice you face. Your living circumstances, your earnings, your relationship and all the other factors you mention, are for you to process in the context of the choice you face. I mainly wanted to say, you have time, and it sounds like, good support from your husband. Good luck with whatever you decide.

If you love the thought of another, maybe you could have this baby and see if your husband would be open to a vasectomy so that there are no more surprises after this child. It might set your mind at ease to know you won't be facing this situation again. Your children are nicely spaced to make this manageable if you decide that you would welcome another baby. Like UmberSeal said, take some time to really think it over when the shock isn't fresh in your mind.