Medical Abortion - terrified

[Peachymumof3]

Hi all,

where do I start? 😭
I have three wonderful children, and we never planned for any more. I came off of birth control as I just wanted my body to feel natural, I was sick of all the side effects. We have been so careful for over a year now, stupidly didn’t check my calendar or ovulation strips, did the deed and then found out it was bang on ovulation. I panicked and brought the morning after pill, tested a week later and it was negative.
fast forward to my period being two days late, I am normally like clock work! And there it was, the positive pregnancy test. I cried, I knew immediately we couldn’t keep the pregnancy. My husband agreed. Here is my problem……
my calendar makes me 4weeks gestation. My husband goes abroad for work tmr! For two weeks. I am petrified I can’t do this alone, the pain, the bleeding, also 3 kids ranging from 7-13 and endless amount of clubs and school pickups. I lost my mum and my mother in law so I have no support atall. Which makes this feel even worse. I pleaded with my husband to stay but he can’t, it’s too short notice.
i have my phone appointment later on today, but I was hoping someone may have been in a similar situation? Or just some advice?

thankyou x

The pill works up to ten weeks so you could wait until your husband returns from work. Plus it would give you a little longer to think and make sure this is what you really want to do, sometimes the shock of unplanned pregnancy makes it hard to think clearly and listen to your heart. There's no reason to take the abortion pills right now, especially if you're the sole caretaker to three children. You don't know if you will have a relatively easy or very difficult time of it, there are so many possible degrees of pain and bleeding. Sounds like you are early enough along that two weeks won't make any difference.

Hi hun

If you are 100% certain you are not keeping the baby then the sooner you do it the better. I had one at 7 weeks. My aunt had a misscarriage at 6 weeks and another at 10 weeks and she said it was much harder on her body at 10 weeks.

I don't want you to rush your decision because of this but I want to make you aware. I had mine at 7 weeks and i found it hard physically and you won't be able to manage your kids. I went to my mother's house when I had it and she helped take care of me. So if you have a good friend who can help you. The mental and emotional pain is so intense and hard to manage alone beside the pain . This is my experience.

Also I am so sorry you lost your mother and mother in law 💗

Please think about your decision as a lot of women regret their decisions after it. They let the hormones and panic take over. So please don't rush your decision. I know what I said is a bit mixed but I'm trying to give you honest advice. Mind yourself 💗

Thankyou for replying. I’ve felt so ill, like flu symptoms, husband is back tmr so taking the first tablet this evening, just the thought of him being there at some point makes me relax, just worried something will go wrong. Xx

Just mind yourself and have everything you need around you . Take care of yourself 💗