Experiences of termination with Marie Stopes

[WildlyAnxious]

Hi

I desperately need some reassurance. Found out I was pg this weekend (5 weeks today) and I'm in bits. My mental health can't cope with another baby, I've already broken down in front of my 3 year old and frightened her but my anxiety is just out of control. I experienced peri and post natal depression and anxiety in my pregnancy with her but I managed due to not having anyone else to worry about. This time I just know I can't do it again and still be a good mum. I'm on medication but pregnancy just does something to me and it makes me suicidal. The thoughts have already started creeping in. I contacted Marie Stopes about a termination but they can't do a consultation until this Thursday which seems so long away even though it isn't really.

Does anyone know how long between the consultation and being able to get the pills? I'm worried that the longer I have to wait the more painful it's going to be and I'm so scared. Can't believe I'm having to do this 😪

Hi. I’m so sorry you are in this position. Just to try and reassure you with a positive MSI experience. Back in June, I had my initial appointment on a Tuesday, my longer phone appointment on the Thursday and had the pill’s by Saturday. I was 8 weeks when I started the actual abortion process which was 2 days later on the Monday. I took the first pill, then 24 hours later Inserted the 2 pills, followed by the second set of 2 pills 3 hours later. All was over within a few hours after that and it was a quite painful, but nothing unbearable. Just an enormous relief once I knew I’d passed the pregnancy. You will be fine. It can be a double edged sword asking for abortion experiences on here as the nature of this site is that it tends to be more negative as the positive experience’s aren’t posted as often. It makes sense, but please don’t scare yourself by reading lots of things that won’t help you in your current state of angst. I know it feels rotten, but you’ve plenty of time. Try not to panic. Once you initial appointment is over, you will feel like the ball is rolling and perhaps it might help you to feel the light at the end of the tunnel is close.

Hey lovely,
I’ve been through MSI before and everything went well
you can actually call them and see if they have any cancellations for earlier appointments, I had to call up twice and the second time they fit me in for the same day, its definitely worth a try.
just so you’re aware MSI do 2 consultations before treatment and after my first one the next was booked for the following day

if you’re hoping to go with the pills through the post after the 2nd consultation they post them the same day I believe first class post so very quick

however in my case when they asked if I had any cramping which I had, they told me I’d have to go in to a clinic for a scan to rule out ectopic, I went in a couple of days later but had to drive over an hour to a clinic further away as the clinics closer to me were really busy and I’d have to wait longer for an appointment. Scan was fine they gave me the pills there and then to take home and the whole process went well, I was 5+6 weeks when I took the first pill. I suffer with really painful periods and the second part wasn’t that bad I even managed to stuff myself with a takeaway in the midst and I just took ibuprofen when the pain got bad.

everything will be okay, you’ve got this!

Thank you so much for the kind replies. I had my consultation this morning. The nurse was very kind and I cried my eyes out. I have another appointment on Monday in clinic for a dating scan and they will give me the pills there and then. I will be exactly 6 weeks.

I keep looking at my daughters face and feeling awful when she would be such an amazing big sister but my own mental health just can't take it.

Your mental health needs to be priority. It's a big reason I had a termination and the fact that a baby in my life would not give my much older teenage children the time and attention to meet their needs.

Another positive experience with MSI as well - all in a week from initial consultation to actually terminating. MSI offer counselling as well pre and post abortion. Definitely something to consider if you feel you need a bit of mental health support.