Do I tell him?

[Matilda46]

I’ve been seeing a guy for 3 weeks and things are going really well. We’ve discussed children etc and both agreed we’d like them in the future but not right now - he has a child from a previous relationship and I have none.

today I found out I’m 2 weeks pregnant - I’m not looking to keep the baby. It’s not the right time and I have no way of supporting a child currently and I want to make sure I’m in a stable relationship.

ive decided not to tell the guy as he has already made it clear he’s got to much going on atm and I don’t want to stop our relationship in its tracks before it’s begun or stress him out even more.

i feel so guilty - am I doing the right thing by not telling him? If we’d been together longer I 100% would tell him

No I wouldn’t tell him either. It’s so early on in the pregnancy and the relationship I can’t see any good coming out of telling him, you might not even be together by next week ! I’m saying this as my personal experience after having an abortion. Are you thinking of getting the tablets ? You’re so early it will just be like a very heavy period . Good luck anyway with whatever you decide

I wouldn't tell him either especially if you feel you've already made up your mind and you feel confident in your decision. If you do however feel you need someone to speak to about everything, please do so. Don't go through this alone as there are people out there to reassure and help you. Best wishes to you

@Threebutterflies24 thank you. Yes I’ve got a phone consultation on Tuesday and I’m hoping they’ll give me the pill option. What was your experience like? I’m so nervous as I’ve read so many horror stories

@lavendersol thank you ☺️ I feel guilty but I know realistically it’s not the right time

What you're feeling is totally normal. Well done for making the right decision for you, that takes strength. You know you are doing the right thing so just keep reminding yourself of that. I hope the whole process is smooth for you emotionally and physically 🩷

Mine was many years ago before pills by post I had to go to the clinic and take the pills in front of the nurse then go back the
next day for the second lot. I had to rush to the toilet on my way back from the clinic and only just made it so the pills at home ones must be much better ! I mean I did bleed
lots and I was like a painful period but definitely manageable. I’d just say have a couple of days off , have some pain relief ready , hot water bottle , thick sanitary pads . Mayby just snuggle up and watch a movie take your mind off it . As for the horror stories I’d be wary as there are some pro lifers on here. I do report them when I spot them . Hope it goes ok for you 👍🏼

Your fertility is completely your business and if it doesn't feel right to disclose, that's ok. I wouldn't have told him either.

I went the pill route with termination in July. All in all it was straightforward. It wasn't as bad as I expected but I wasn't prepared for the hormonal emotional dip after. Having said that though I got through it and feel at peace with the decision I made.